Question about appearance!

[Squeekerz]

So... I just thought I'd ask.  I feel silly for even asking, but I'm going to anyway!  For the future!  Not too ridiculously long ago, my hair was a beautiful color blue.  I love looking out of the norm that way.  My tongue was also pierced, and I wanted a lip piercing.  

 

My question is... what kind of outward appearance should the spouse of someone in the Navy present?  Back before I was too big to fit into my clothes, I wore Tripp pants with lots of chains and as much metal as possible.  I loved my huge paints that felt so heavy on my waist.  Black nail polish, black fingerless gloves... It's a style I still enjoy to this day, but toned down quite a bit to what I used to be.  Now I wouldn't really wear the chains or anything.  Too much noise and what not.

 

In any case  what is appropriate for being married and living with a Sailor?  I don't want to dye my hair crazy and then my husband get in trouble for it.  I love the blue though...  Also, a love of mine is Lolita clothing. You know... the frilly dresses with lace... and frills.  Did I mention all the frill?  lol   I just don't know if these are things I should avoid, for the sake of my future husband.

 

....  Corsets and frilly doll-like dresses... and other alternative style clothes...  are these too "out there?"

 

 

Just wondering... Sorry it's so silly a question...

[Jess_0411]

Haha too funny! But how embarassing for that sailor and for you.

[firepig aka Sonya (Mc's GF)]

lol @ THAT WIFE!!!

[Fur&FeathersDVM]

My hubby is an officer, so I see our CO on a regular basis (well, unless they're deployed, of course ;) ). I will never forget the first time I met our old CO- it was at my first event with hubby's command, a dining in to celebrate their homecoming and to celebrate winning the Battle E for that year. I was very nervous because my hubby told me not only would the entire wardroom (aka all the officers) be there, but the guest of honor was a Captain who worked as an aide to the joint chief of staff. Eep. I dressed very conservatively (not that that's out of the norm for me, but still, I was nervous about "looking the part" I guess you could say). Once we got there, I immediately relaxed- the other wives were dressed similarly to me, and the CO turned out to be really great- we actually became to be close friends over the remainder of his tour on the ship, and both he and his wife and I still stay in touch. Anyway, to get to the point, over the course of the evening, I noticed that both the XO's wife and one of the Department Heads wives had colored hair- the XO's wife had a brilliant shade of magneta and the DH's wife had purple! Now our CO's wife is the most genuine person I have ever met- and she is not afraid to make her opinion known, so if she had a problem with it, she would have said it up front! But after dinner I heard her say to both of them "I LOVE what you've done with your hair- it looks great with your skin tone!" and she was 100% serious.

 

So I guess the thing to remember is- while maybe a shocking color might not *always* be the best option...  a CO and his wife (or her husband!) are just regular people too. None of us wives ever treated any of the other wives that had a different hair color any differently- after all, weren't their husbands working right alongside ours? I'm not saying that there's not going to be people out there who don't talk, but hey, you have that in civilian world too. The key is to just dress appropriately for the situation- also like the civilian world- and to keep in mind that when you're going on base to perhaps keep it a little more conservative.

[Anti M]

Having been a sailor and a long time Navy dependent:
The dress code only applies to the sailors. Don't worry about the COs, they've been around long enough to understand people. The ones giving you the hassle will be the same people who would now, narrow minded types, often other wives who are bored and need to gossip.
Of course, formal occasions require different styles of dressing, and some modesty on base is a good idea.Seems like you all have a handle on that.
If you own ANYTHING with drug related images, do get rid of those items. THAT will get your sailor into hot water. Pot leaves are pot leaves even if you insist it is "Hemp Nation". And anything weaponish may be a problem at the gate, like the belts made of shell casings or decorative hand grenades. Just use common sense.
The exception is bases overseas, they can stop a dependent from going off base if they are dressed very inappropriately. I'm talking way out there indecent, or shirts with hate slogans.
Blue hair shouldn't be too much. some of the retirees might stare, but they might not. I'm a Navy retiree at this point, and I've had purple hair. Freaking hard to maintain.
Hey, I go to Burning Man, I can't be shocked, except by hatred or stupidity.

[Squeekerz]

Thank you so much!  All the stories about "that wife" made me chuckle a little.  I'm glad I"d never let myself get out of hand like that.  Even drunk, the worst I get is slurring a little and passing out.  I'm not all for getting drunk in public though.

 

I have a habit of worrying too much.  I'm so grateful that things have been brought to my attention.  For some reason people of authority sorta feel surreal and untouchable to me.  Sometimes I forget they're normal people too.... just like celebrities. Haha.   So far as I can tell, I'll be fairly safe with the way I dress.  Usually I'm just in jeans and a t-shirt.  No inappropriate images unless it's a band t-shirt, but I think those shirts have gotten lost anyway. :P

 

YAYYyyy  Now I can stop freaking out about things that don't matter a whole lot. :)