Looking for some reassurance :/

[Gretchen]

I've been dating my SR for almost 11 months now, and even though we're young we know that we love each other and that we want to stay together. But because we're so young, everyone seems to not believe this will work out...at all. His mom his extremely supportive and reassures me that someone can't understand unless they're actually a part of the military family. I went into this relationship not realizing all that I was in for, but I've grown to love it and respect it and I would never wish to change it. I'm leaving for college in a little over a week and honestly, I'm terrified. It seems that everyone my age (and some others) thinks that I'm crazy for wanting to stay with someone and commit my life to him, but I know it's what I want. I guess this is a rant more than anything, but with PIR still 33 days away, I can really use some encouraging words/advice..

[SailorGal]

Take ur time listen to ur heart. Time waits on no one and love doesn't deAl wit time the wait is worth my sailor graduated Fri

[Ladybug<3]

hang in there! The only way to prove to others that what you have is real is to pass the test of time. Only you know what is right for you and what you want in your heart. If you guys make it, then you will have proven everyone wrong. If you dont, well then you took a chance on what you believed in and that is always the right choice to make! Either way, forget the negative comments and focus on supporting your sailor while he is gone (because he will need it), on your school and trying your best to make the relationship work. It can be and has been done :) Best of  luck to you both!!

 

[PeruvianMami (Ship11Div284)]

Heres my opinion... I dont think ur crazy :) i would just take it day by day.. This just the beginning of his military joutney as an SR to a furture sailor and ur journey to attempt to understand and be patient with the live style.. As long as u guys communicate trust and are honest wit each other u will be a okay... Just stay positive! I wouldnt pay much attention to negativity.. My sr pir is in about 3 weeks. U can add me on here or facebook.com/peruvianmami.... So we are only a week apart of this 4 yr journey.. Hope this helps a lil bit sweetie :)

[abuon18]

Hey Gretchen, our SR's PIR together! What div is he in?
Anyway just like any relationship you have at your age people will always tell you it won't last military or not. Ultimately no one knows what is going to happen but don't let them bring you down. It CAN last if you are both committed to all the hard work its going to be! As long as you don't have some fairy tale idea about your relationship & know you're going to have good days and bad days you will be fine. and like one of the other girls said... Its been done many times before!

[Gretchen]

Thank you so much!! I feel so much better after reading all these responses. I totally realize that there's going to be a lot of hard times, but I don't see how it wouldn't be worth it in the end! I am totally committed to him - I've never felt this committed to anything (or anyone obviously) before! But he's in Division 300, PIR 9/09 (:

[Emily-aaronsgirl11]

Hi Gretchen! :) I'm Emily. :) 
I'm 18, and engaged to Aaron. We've been together for over 3 years now. I'm headed to college this fall also! Ahhh move in day is coming so fast!! So I know exactly what you're going through. :)

I can definitely relate to the family thing. When Aaron left for bootcamp, it was like my mom was betting on us breaking up, so when A school rolled around, she was not supportive of our relationship at all. She keeps trying to set me up with other guys. I don't think it's that she doesn't like Aaron, it's just that she thinks I'm young and wants me to date other guys... which I'm definitely not interested in doing. We started out as a summer fling and things just went from there. Now we're both completely committed, and neither one of us want to be with anyone else. 

And age... is just a number. What matters is how you feel. Not to mention, if you're a lot more mature than most girls your age, the commitment thing is just normal. I know what you're saying about being terrified... I hate telling people my age that I'm engaged because they instantly judge. Luckily my roommate was supportive about it when I was up front with her about it.

Hang in there. Everything will make sense once you're in your sailor's arms, I promise. All of the tears, frustration, and lonely nights are worth it just for that one amazing hug. :)

If you need anything, please don't be afraid to message me. We're all just getting through this one day at a time. :) 

[Gretchen]

You have no idea how much this post helped!!! Not only are we dealing with the same thing, but we're the same age (: Absolutely everything you said was just what I needed to hear...thank you so much. Frank wants to propose after he finishes A school and C school - and that's about a year, maybe a little less. I'm a bit wary being in college engaged, but if I forget about what anyone else might think, I know I'll be happier than ever (like I am right now knowing we're together). Thank you so much again!

[Countrygirl143]

Hi Gretchen, I'm Emmy.
I'm 18 also, and engaged to a sailor on deployment right now. We've been together over two years and a lot of people didn't believe we'd ever make it (my friends took bets on how long we'd last!) but if you really love each other and you know for sure, don't listen to what anyone else says. Since my fiancé has been in the navy for a year now, I've been through waiting for bootcamp, A-school, deployment and everything in between. It's difficult but when I read your first post, I felt like it could've been me sying those words. I know its very difficult to go through this, but you know he loves you and it's all that matters. I couldn't have made it this far if I didn't have loving people around, and even though they don't understand how you're feeling sometimes, just know they want you to be happy, and be patient. I'll be praying for you,
Emmy

[Gretchen]

It is so reassuring to hear this from someone my age!! Thank you so much, you have no idea how much this helps me. I know we can make it, I know it's not going to be easy, but I can't wait till at least boot is over

[Emily-aaronsgirl11]

What's his rate (job)? 
And if you want to add me on a friend here/message me, we can be facebook friends. I'm on there lots more. :)
I'm always looking for more Navy friends! :) 

[Gretchen]

He's in intelligence! And yeah I accepted your frined request on here, and I'm also on facebook wayy more, I don't even really know how to work the page on here! p.s. - I got a phone call today!!!!!

[Sailor's gf (Ship 10 Div 261)]

I've been dating my boyfriend for the same amount of time, and I leave for school next friday! I totally understand what you are dealing with, and it's important to remember that regardless of the negativity, it's your life and YOUR relationship! I'm blessed with mostly positive opinions about my relationship, but it is hard to shake the negative ones. Still, your heart knows when it's right. Ethan's PIR is only 5 days away! :))