i just need a friend..... have any advice please

[CUPCAKE]

I'm still having a hard time with my boyfriend being gone. I have no one to talk to except his mom. He left two days ago and I'm sort of worried about him. He isn't much of a writer and i'm afraid he will only write his mom. Is there any advice that you have for me?

[My Sailor's Anchor]

Sorry to hear that. It is rough the first time around not knowing what to expect and especially not having someone else who can relate and talk with...but that why ur here :)

Try to be proactive. Send him a care package full with goodies and I'm sure ull get an email. And don't forget to send some real letters too. I used to send those singing cards that I would know id get a laugh out of him. Good luck

[CUPCAKE]

thanks so much

[yasmine]

When my Boyfriend first left I felt the same way, and the only person I talked to was his mom. We both kept each other up to date with everything. At first I couldn't get him off my mind, my every thought was him. But I just did whatever I could to keep busy. So I started college(: I also have a job and we have a child together so there was always something for me to do. So just keep busy. Do whatever you can. Write him whether he writes you are not. I know my BF wanted me to write him every other day that he was in boot camp. But I wrote every day. He's now in Florida for A school and I actually miss writing letters and going to the mailbox everyday just to see if he had written me. Well I'm here if you need me. Us Navy Girlfriends have to stick together(:

[mmaya1109]

Hey I'm sry u no we are all here on this cite if u need a friend. Don't worry about him he will write u soon. Yea just try and stay busy. Like that won't stop u from thinkin bout him it will make time go by faster. At least u hav his mom I didn't even hav that when my husband left. I was all alone too but mmmm maybe if u get close to anyone one this cite having a friend u can just text out da blue will help a lot even though yall would b far away a friend in the same situation helps soooo much.

[JessicaB-Sailor's Sweetheart<3]

Hey there! My Fiance graduated bootcamp on July 1st. I know exactly how you feel right now. feel free to send me a message on here and I'll give you my email/facebook and we can talk. I am in some really great awesomly supportive Navy girlfriends/fiance/wife/mom groups on facebook that I think you would really like. (:

[CUPCAKE]

thanks you guys this site is really helping. i really appreciate everything you guys have told me. thanks so much

[Katie26]

Hey! I am only 19 years old, and alot of people think that i dont know what im talking about because alot of 19 year olds dont stay together. 

When My boyfriend left for basic I was terrified. to be honest i had only met him 3 months prior and he told me after 2 weeks that he was leaving. he would have loved to become a couple before but i needed to see how i handled him being gone in bootcamp before i made the commitment. I felt like because i didnt make this commitment to him that i wouldnt hear from him when he was there and that he would only write his mom and family. I couldnt have been more wrong. he was only allowed to write sundays so the first sunday he wrote his family and the next he wrote me. and thats how it went the whole time. but he would also put in little things at the bottom of his moms letters to show me so it was like i was hearing from him all the time. He WILL write as much as possible. but also write him all the time ! dont limit it to just when he writes you cause he isnt at liberty to write all the time. 

Now if you are talking about a deployment, deployments can do really weird things to the men. im still trying to figure it out my self. as i am 7 months into my first one. 

If you ever need to talk, i will for sure listen cause i know how hard it is to talk to people. I only talk to 2 of my friends about anything with my boyfriend because they are the only ones that listen even if they dont relate.

[CUPCAKE]

Thanks. I'm only 18 and my boyfriend and i have been dating almost a year. I'm just sad because i wont get to get phone calls or video chat till after february because i go to boot camp in December. It kind of sucks

[yasmine]

@Nicks Cupcake are you in the navy also,?

[CUPCAKE]

i will be going into the navy reserves..

[yasmine]

That's so cool. Before I found out I was pregnant I was going to the air force. After I had my baby I still wanted to go but they said I had to be married, how lame is that's.

[CUPCAKE]

ya that is lame. well i know that it will be good for me. My boyfriend and i are going to wait till maybe he gets to A school to get engaged but not married for a couple of years so we are financially good.