Looking for Experienced Advice!

[RaiderMom]

Background: Son is 23, has 2.5 years , is working with a terrific local Navy recruiter, scored 99 on ASVAB (don't know his AFQT), went to local MEPS in early December for physical etc. Passed everything, no problem.

Current situation: He truthfully revealed on his at MEPS that he had recently been under a doctor's care for mild depression (at his parents' urging) and short-term anti-depressant medication treatment.

 

All processing came to a screeching halt, naval liaison said they would need to review the doctor's records; the records were delivered to MEPS by his recruiter, where they are "being reviewed."

Trying to wait patiently for process to work, holidays and all; understand it all takes time. But realistically, what are his chances? No previous mental health issues, recent mild depression was probably a result of being dissatisfied with his school performance and worries about his future. When he began to think about joining the Navy, he became very focused and goal-oriented. Hate to think that short "floundering" period could ruin his chances to join.

I'm a firm believer in having a Plan B, but I'd sure like to hear from some experienced folks if they think he will need one. Thanks for your time and advice.

[Kathy (AOMom)]

Its good that he disclosed the info. He has really good scores, and has passed the physical. Overmanned is the new motto, the Navy can be selective on who they take, with this economy many are tying to join the military for at the very least a job. Honestly I would have a plan B, until he completes and passes bootcamp, at least think about what he would like to do if it doesnt work out for him. Patience is key here, but stay in contact with the recruiter , or your son should. It will show them that he is interested and still wants to join. Hope it works out for him.

[Angie]

It doesn't matter how good he scored, or how much he wants to join the USN...the fact of the matter is that he is seeing a doctor for depression.  NOT good when trying to join the military..if he is depressed before joining how is going to bootcamp and being away from everyone for 8+ weeks going to be?  How will he handle being out to sea for 6+ months at a time?  Not being able to contact family for ___ amount of time?

 

That is what they are going to try and figure out from the doctors records.  

 

I would HIGHLY recommend he have a plan b, as even if he does get approved to go to bootcamp..if he has one slip up during bootcamp he will be sent home.

[BunkerQB]

Depression should not be taken likely. It is not the same as a short "floundering" - dissatisfaction with school performance and worries about the future are normal growing up pains - most do not get depressed to the point of seeking medical treatment. If your son has tendencies to have depressions, he should not join the Navy - for HIS sake. The Navy environment is not conducive to those trying to recover from bouts of depression. My son is an officer. He has been in a situation where there have been a number of suicidal attempts (several successful). He believes personal issues will be exacerbated in the Navy - not diminished. The Navy can only do so much. The Navy (all military branches) is not for everyone.

My recommendation is to stop this application process until his condition can be evaluated by his therapist. Being prong to depression is not a crime. It is however a serious condition which must be monitored. Beyond joining the Navy, he, along with all our sons and daughters, are our future. The outward appearance of invincibility hides their fragility of these times for this young generation. We must do what we can to help promote a sense of well being and safe-guard their mental and physical health.

I have two sons - one is a sailor - the other was in the Army for two years. Their growing up years were fairly typical. They are both resilient. Of course, they both have gone through the myriad of emotions growing up - confused, upset, discouraged, pissed - and the opposite - full of pride, sense of accomplishment, cocky, I-can-do-anything attitude, etc. etc. Neither have been treated for depression. Raidermom, as his mother, you know best what he can handle. I would personally not encourage a son/daughter of mine to join the armed forces if he/she had depression tendencies.

Go to Plan B. There are many endeavors he can pursuit without the risk. But you must let him know that not getting in the Navy is NOT a sign of failure or in anyway indicative of whether he will succeed in life. Don't put so much emphasis in joining the Navy. It is just one door that didn't open for him. There are many doors to open with endless possibilities.

Good luck.

[Hannah88]

Good info as always BunkerQB-- do they undergo any kind of cursory psyche evaluation during either of their visits to MEPS?

[BunkerQB]

LOL. My son is on a sub. I thought those guys had to go through rigorous testing for claustrophobia. He said he doesn't remember any psyche test. Maybe it was administered as part of some interview and he wasn't even aware that he was being evaluated. Of course, since he was a swimmer/water polo player in high school, they might've figured he be comfortable surrounded by water, even it it is in a sub. LOL.

[Hannah88]

Thanks! Interesting though they wouldn't test for severe claustrophobic reaction for sub duty. Son already knows he's claustrophobic, so he's ruled out anything beneath the surface LOL. Unfortunately his depth perception is ruling out a lot of the aviation ratings he was interested in, so he's looking at GM and DC among others, and I sent him to those "navyformoms" sites to get the scoop. Thanks for writing!

[RaiderMom]

Thanks to all who offered their opinions and kind words.  Here's an unhappy update:  my son received a letter from MEPS advising him that he is medically unqualified to enlist due to his recent treatment.  The letter said if he could prove a 36 month period without a psychiatrist's care or medications, he could re-apply.  Obviously, not the news my son wanted to hear and he is now formulating his Plan B, which is actually by now, his Plan P or Q or something.  Good luck to all the Navy Moms, wish I could have joined you.