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Alright so here's the thing I really want to move in with my boyfriend. he's stationed in Norfolk Virginia. but I still don't know if I'm ready for that .
we've been talking about moving in for a really long time. but if I do I'll probably have to get a full-time job & help around with bills because he has his car payment and car insurance. we talked about getting married but I know FORSURE I'm not ready for that commitment quite yet . I would really love it if we got married but it's a scary thing. I'm barely 19, about to turn 20 in June. it's crazy because when we're far away from each other we argue alot but when we are together arguing doesn't even cross our minds.
I'm just really confused on what to do about moving out there. I would really like it because I feel so depressed & alone out here, I'm from Bakersfield CA. I have family & friends but I just feel like im missing my other half . :(
if any of you can help me on what to do I would greatly appreciate it . thank you <3

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If you two move in together, he doesn't get extra pay to help with the housing cost, nor does he get extra pay to help with food.   Also if you move from CA to VA, you will have to pay for your own move.

Just a few things to think about

yes Angie he explained that to me already. :/
that's why I was thinking about getting a full time job.
I don't have much stuff to move just clothes. the furniture is my moms.

Something else to keep in mind is just because you are living together doesn't mean you aren't going to be apart. He could be deployed, sent TAD, etc. You have to be able to be apart and still make it work.

Only you and he are able to know if you should live together or not, but if you aren't sure you are ready to commit to marriage, and if you have trouble getting along when separated geographically, you might want to wait a bit before moving across country to live together.

But again, you and he are the only ones who can make that choice. Good luck!

"but if I do I'll probably have to get a full-time job & help around with bills because he has his car payment and car insurance."   WHAT???  ARE YOU SERIOUS?  MOVE ACROSS THE COUNTRY, GET A FULL TIME JOB SO YOU CAN HELP HIM PAY THE BILLS?  IF YOU ARE READY TO GET MARRIED AND HE WANTS YOU TO MOVE FROM CA TO VA, THEN HE BETTER MAN UP AND POP THE QUESTION, SO HE CAN GET EXTRA PAY FOR YOU AS HIS DEPENDENT. Otherwise, get a job, sign up for classes. Go out w friends. Be so busy, you don't have time to feel depressed. You are missing you love but you are 19. Don't uproot your life for ANYONE unless it the real thing.

Take care.

I never thought of it that way till now. you're right. maybe we should just take things slow & see where it takes us. thank you guys so much, y'all were very helpful..

Erika,

Don't EVER feel that you have to have a man around. I know when you are young and missing your boyfriend, you see only how lonely life is without him. But if you move, you will uproot yourself, you'll have to make new friends. Your family won't be around to help. HE will still have his job, HIS career.  If it is meant to be, you two will be together.  My son joined the Navy right out of college. His girlfriend didn't want him to join. He did it anyway because he thought it was good for his career. They broke up and 2 years ago, they came back together.  They both dated others but always kept in touch. They got married last year and are soooooo happy.


You should always have a career to fall back on. If you don't like college, try one of the trade schools. Or a business.

we actually broke up & got back together 2 months later, we couldn't handle not being together. now we've been together a little over a year & a half . I understand this isn't gonna be easy, I knew that from the beginning. he was actually supposed to deploy last week till Obama canceled it. before that he was going back and forth underway for about 6 months & I just came back from visiting him thinking he was going to deploy turns out it was canceled so I ended up staying a couple more days extra.. i KNOW i love him, that's not even a question. we have just been talking about moving in together for a while now I just don't know whether it's the right choice right now. I don't mind meeting new friends or starting a whole other life w. him I knew it was going to happen, it's the sacrifice I was willing to make when we first started dating & he warned me about everything before we started dating & I didn't care I just wanted to be w. him.. I'm just so confused right now..

that deployment hasnt been cancelled just postponed  I know this cause my son is in that group. It will be sooner than later so I would say sit tight for now.

Then you should go but get married first.

I have to admit, I don't understand the reasoning behind moving across the continent (or, for that matter, across town), to live with your Sailor and not being married.  It is still a huge commitment, you are merging your lives, possibly having a child, financially / legally tying yourselves together (leases, utilities, etc), but you have NONE of the things that make it easier to survive and be successful as a couple that the military provides.  You won't have medical care, you won't be protected by the military clause on the lease (he will), you MAY have (limited) access to the Ombudsman and FRG, but not a sure thing, you don't get  the extra pay that can make life easier, you can't use the commissary or exchange, or use any of the counseling or support programs in place to help couples be successful as a Navy family.  You can't even go on base to pick him up or welcome him home....

But yet, you get the shared bills, the dirty socks and dishes, the compromising a couple does, the distance from your family, and the worry....

It's like buying gas and paying for the insurance and upkeep on a car you don't own..

As  said before, the two of you are the only ones who can decide whats right for you, and being married doesn't mean your relationship problems (fighting when apart) will go away.  But if you aren't ready to commit by being his wife, why are you wanting to commit to having all of the burden but none of the benefits that goes with being one? 

But like I said, it's your choice, you are the only one who can decide what path is right for you.  

good luck!

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