MEPS today... BC tomorrow...

[Dawnette7]

To be honest, I had my first real cry last night. Not because I'll miss him, but because he's kinda being mean to his mom. I'm reading everyone's posts about how tender and loving and memory making everyone is and I am here just longing for a moment to hang on to for the next few months. He's spent the last three days with his best friends' family, barely acknowledges my preparations for him (the wallet, address/phone list, stamps, bandaids, farewell party, laundry, favorite foods) or my attempts at conversation about what he wants, what he thinks he needs, where he wants to go for dinner tonight. His girlfriend even told him last night, "Stop being mean to your mom!" While I get that he's "breaking away" and forging ahead, I can't help but be envious of all you who get those few precious moments with your babies before they go. Why do they stomp on the heart of the one who loves them the most on the way out the door? And, please... I've heard it all, even repeat it over and over to myself... "He's gonna come out a man on the other side; he's gonna be fine; let him go." Oh, don't get me wrong... I'm beyond proud of him. I come from military. I just wish he could realize how hurtful he's being on his quest to "do this myself."

[Micah's mom]

Without knowing you and your son and the relationship you had together "pre-navy", my guess is he has realized this is harder (to leave you) than he thought it would and he is trying to distance himself from you thinking it will make it easier on him to leave. It doesn't mean he loves you any less. Stay strong and continue being the mom you have been. He will come around eventually. This chapter in our lives is not easy for anyone. Stay positive!

[aster]

IduGr8Hair - {{{hugs}}} to you! Keep on this site and get the support you need. My son distanced himself from me somewhat, he was excited, and anxious about what to expect, told me to stop reading stuff on N4Moms as "those people" don't know anything!  LOL! Start writing positive letters/journals to him now, expressing your pride, love and support. Send daily positive letters once he is in BC. If you can, and try to, go to MEPS when he swears in and video tape it with your phone or camera. Give him a great big hug, he will remember and appreciate all you are doing and have done once he is in BC. Remember, there is always someone here, who has gone through the same or similar emotion/event you have gone through. My son just celebrated his 1st year in the Navy this week...and he is loving it! Stay in touch, many family and friends don't understand, it is much different than a child going to college...don't let anyone be negative about it, just come on here and be with your Navy Mom friends!  More hugs {{{hugs}}}

[JackieD]

This is a big change in his life.  All normal feelings.  I truly believe that the reason he's behaving that way with you is he knows you are the one who is going to love him unconditionally and will forgive him.  No matter what you will always be there for him.  He's letting out whatever it is that’s going on inside, his feelings about leaving, maybe hiding his fear, anxiety, trying to cope. 

My son didn't behave that way with me, but the first time he came home, after A school, I was about to leave for work and he said to me that he's sorry for all he's put me through.  He loves me and appreciates everything I do and have done for him, even though he didn't show it.   He said “mom you were right” on many things.  I cried all the way to work that morning.

Stay strong.  Prayers to you both.

[aster]

JackieD - well said!

[MAG]

If it is any consolation, the older they get, the smarter you get!  My youngest son PIR'd on 5/24.  The "baby" as he is referred to between my husband and I, is 24.  He was away at college on the 5 year plan, and was home from June 2012 until MEPS on March 26th.  In between, he worked at the family business and lived at home.  He had a family going away dinner, and was crabby as hell the next day.  He was fine at MEPS.  I didn't have a girlfriend to deal with, got him all the stuff he needed, although, truth be told, he could have done it - and I wanted to.  It will be fine.

 

 

 

[BarbRags]

I truly think a lot of the kids do this before they leave.  I know my son did and it drove me to tears.  He spent our last weekend that we could  have together with his friends.   The day we parted, I got a hug like I had never gotten from him before.  It made it all better.  But not only did he push me away before he left, he did it to his girlfriend and broke up with her 2 days before he left.  It's what he needed to do for him to get through bootcamp.  He did tell me later on that the first few days in BC he was in his rack and it hit him about what he did, with me, his girlfriend and joining the Navy.  He actually told me he was sorry. 

I was shocked yesterday when I got a text from him telling me how excited he was that I was coming to visit him in between A & C school.  

I truly think his pushing you away, shows just how close he feels to you.  There is a Navy Moms on Facebook you have to ask to join.  Come on over for some support.  ((NMH))

[navymomtrustinggod;ship4;DIV2347]

I was at MEPS today as well, my daughter left today as well. She was kind of quite didn't want to talk much. She letter text me to let me know she was trying to keep it together. I am sure your son was doing the same thing. I can feel your pain. Sorry you had to go through that, it will get better!

[meli_gz]

When me and my mom in law were planning a going away party for my SR. He got mad at us because he didn't want to say good bye to anybody, he did told me that it will be very hard for him to say good bye. Also when we were with him in MEPS he said that he didn't want to see me cry because it will make it more difficult for him to let us go.

[Dawnette7]

Thanks for the support... it's nice to hear that I'm not the only one dealing with an obnoxious recruit!!