missing my son

[Simon's mom]

Just wanted a little encouragement I feel so sad and lost without my son. I came home from work and his room is empty. I ask my self how can I bea proud Navy mom and so sad at the same time? I love u son.

[jannykay_Nuke_A_School_GooseCrk]

Yes, I feel your frustration and love!   My daughter first visited the recruiter in May 2013.   She did not make it through all the hoops, medical, testing and enlistment until mid November!  But, now she is in - including, weekly study group, DEP/PT meeting weekly and even has to fill out a CHIP to travel this Christmas to my Sister's and My Mom's.   She tested high initially and then took an additional test for NUKE.  She is scheduled for boot camp May 19, 2014.  It will be a short and long next 5-6 months.   I am SO PROUD and EXCITED for her - plus so totally nervous, scared, worried, confused, sad, etc.....   

I know that when May arrives,,,, I will be in turmoil of emotions and so appreciate your comments!!   And also, feel so thankful to have found Nave for Moms....   

[Baby jay's mama]

My son just left on the 2nd of December. I too am very sad, trying my best not to break down. It's hard to be proud when you miss them so much and wished they were home! Today I received an address to mail him letters and it was the best email ever! Still cried, but boy am I happy to feel more connected! My boy also got into the Nuke program, which is still new to me!

[Jordans mom]

I'm sad too my son just got to bootcamp last nite its gonna be along 8 weeks. But I'm am so proud of him

[MelissaD(Ship 11 Div 089)]

I know exactly how you feel. My son has been gone just a week and I miss him terribly. I get teary eyed at the worst time like today while checking out at Wal-Mart. Just remember he heads made a decision because you raised a great man. Prayers and comfort your way. Hugs.

[waltandcolleen]

Hello Seabee mom.  Congratulations to your son.  I think a great career choice.  My son just finished his school.  He is officially a Seabee.  His is making his way home for Christmas from Port Huneme.  I just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas!

[A's_momma_Erin]

I started an event Vines that Bind.  Check out the event section on the right hand side of the page.  Fellow parents/loved ones in similar situations "get together" in the main chat room on Sundays to connect.  I  started a discussion, sort of, with inspiring/cheesy songs to lift spirits.  Check it out if your are interested…My dittys… Original songs/poems to lift ones spirit  It is hard to remember that we are on this journey with our SRs.  They have so much going on it can be a tad easier on them.  Keep busy, stay involved, and know you are not alone!

[waltandcolleen]

I know how you feel but it does get easier.  How long has been gone?

[virtuious]

It is a very hard combination I know, My son is in Japan for 3 years and I want to be proud but my heart aches so much. I can not share my joys or sorrows with him like we did once upon a time:(!

[Ryan's Mom - Vicky]

I could be you, my son left on the 5th and I feel the same way.  I could not be prouder of him but the tears keep coming.  The 2 a.m. phone call was hard but the box with his possessions was a heartbreaker!  He has since called and the excitement in this voice has helped a bit, but I am still an emotional puddle.  Still waiting for my first letter, should be tomorrow since they were mailed this week.  Can  hardly wait until graduation!  Hang in there - 3 weeks down and 4  to go!

Remember that they part of the 1% - be proud and be sad, you are allowed to miss your child!

[lemonelephant]

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[baybreeze97]

Hi Everyone,

I think all of us "moms" are in the same boat.  We all miss our sons, whether they move out of the house to be on their own, or go off to college, or join one of the armed forces. I have experienced the "going off to college," and depending how far away they go, it is all difficult.  My son finished bootcamp in Great Lakes. We attended his graduation in November, and he survived! We only received 3-4 phone calls the entire time, and mail written from them only leaves the base on Sundays, so we would anticipate a letter or two every Thursday. They can communicate more often after they graduate. Now he is going to be headed out to CA in a month or so, and we will not see him for several months.  I cry a lot, too, but that only says, that we love them, and are so proud of them. They are living their dream and are happy, so what more can we want for our sons and daughters. Granted there were times that my son told me, he thought, "what am I doing here..." but in the end he loves what he is doing and his future with the Navy.  He is excited, and so I am for him.  Take, "one day at a time..."

[Cihuacoatl77]

I know it is very hard but, make yourself a goal to write a letter once a week.  Tell the mundane.  Tell about daily life even if it has to do with cleaning the kitchen.  This is the life your son knows and it makes their time as a recruit or in school seem not so far away.  The connection will do you both good.  Later, depending on your available time, send a small package once a month with something, even it it seems silly.  Again, it is the connection that is important. I have a second son who also left four years ago for college and then the older just left this last June for his naval recruit training.  I miss them both so much and hate it each time that they go back but, again maintaining the connection is vital.  I am proud, I am sad and I think this is how it will be from now on, however doing something positive and proactive will help you also.  Best Wishes in 2014.