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Marriage after A school
Hello Ladies !!
Okaay, so here's the thing. My Fiance and I planned on getting married when he returns from A school. I did some reading of my own and started browsing around the site for ladies with the same questions as me. From my understanding, If I am not on his orders when he returns from A school, I will not be able to live with him even after we are married ? How does this work ? Im very new at this and I need a little explantion on this. His sister is also in the Navy and plans to retire soon, but has never been married so she couldnt really help me out on this. Can someone explain. Also, even after we marry, will him and I be separated for a long time even when he is stationed and I cant be there ? I guess I'm very paranoid and nervous at this point because we have never spent this much time apart from each other and I miss him so much. This is only the 4th day of his boot camp and I'm going crazy by not hearing from him. Is this feeling normal ? Ohh Gosh, emotional wreck. Advise Ladies ??!
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Permalink Reply by courtneya on
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I'm by far no pro at all of this, my husband is still in boot camp. From what I understand you have to be married when he gets his orders for his permanent duty station for you to be included on his orders. Those come at the end of A school. If you aren't married by then it's really not a huge deal, so don't worry! You'll probably have to file some paperwork in order to get yourself covered on his insurance and BAH and such. I sent you a friend request, and would love to chat if you have any other questions, or just want someone to talk too! I'm going through this too.. just a few weeks ahead of you. :) Good luck!
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Permalink Reply by BrittBratt0820 on
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Thanks Court ! This helped a bit, but I still have a million questions about this. I sent you a msg as well.
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Permalink Reply by meagan5220 on
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If you plan it right you can get married and get on orders for a short A school. I did it. Just gotta plan it right. My husband's A school was 8 weeks and he was only at his a school location for barely under ten weeks. We got married week 4, he got orders week 8. I was on them. Just so happened we got all our paperwork filled out and taken care of asap and then there was a small threat of a govt shut down while he was waiting which delayed them by a few days too. Not saying it happens for everyone but he has to get on it as soon as he gets to a school then you have to wait until phase two when he gets to leave base, and then you get married as soon as possible after he gets into phase two and has everything approved. It was very fast and we were one hundred percent on top of everything to make sure it got done as quickly as possible. I stayed a week to get all the ID, Tricare, paperwork stuff taken care of. Which I think helped a little.
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Thanks ladies. This is so overwhelming at this point. EmCHammer, how did that effect your relationship?
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Permalink Reply by Anti M on
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Keep breathing! If you two have not been apart before, without communications, you have to learn what way of dealing with it work for you. Boot camp is not only to train him, but you get "trained" along the way too. You can do this!
Orders are issued as accompanied or unaccompanied... meaning the sailor can move his family to be with him at the Navy's expense, or not. The other ladies have it right, his school is too short to get married and get the paperwork in so the detailer knows if the orders need to include dependents. So when he fills out his "dream sheet" for orders, a wish list, he should put down the big bases... choose east coast or west coast, put down Norfolk or San Diego. Then you can move yourself to where his first duty station will be. The better he does in A school, the better his choice may be. He wants to shoot for being the top graduate. If he can advance to E-2 in boot camp, that helps.
Yes, he potentially could get orders to where you cannot go. Overseas orders mean you'd need command sponsorship, and that is almost always denied to E-3 and below (that is junior paygrades). But that doesn't mean you two can't make it, or can never visit.
My husband and I were both active duty when we met. For the first two years of our marriage, we saw each other for a grand total of 28 days. We only had snail mail and rare phone calls, but we made it work. You just hangin there, stay busy, improve yourself, and save money for visits. It is possible. You just do it, because the alternative is not acceptable.
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Ladies, all of your responses helped me out so much. If def feel much better about this than before. The possibilities def keeps me uplifted. Im forever grateful that you all responded in such supporting ways. Lord knows I couldn't do this alone. However him and I and can make anything work. 10 years is a long time. The longest that we've not seen each other was 3 weeks but we had communication. So I believe thats the hardest part. But ladies, im so happy I was referred to this site. Its a great support system. Anti M, thank you so much!
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Permalink Reply by mcb1492 on
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you need to be on his orders to live in military housing and to have the navy move your stuff. Plus if your not on DEERS you can't have medical insurance through the navy. You need to be married for military benefits to dependents. You don't have to be married to live out in town. Renting an home or an apartment is possible. He may still have to ask permission from his first command to get married. We were married 24 years ago. Remember he is a G.I. (Government Issue). There is just a lot of bureaucratic red tape to work with. The Navy can't help you till your married and on DEERS. My husband and I were married 3 years into his first command. It can be done just wade through the red tape as best as possible. Talk to your finance and you'll get more reliable answers. He is in the right position to talk to the right people. Hope this helps, take care and God Bless
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So, my Fiance has to have permission from someone for him and I to get married after he finishes A school ? And if they tell him no ?? We have to accept that ??
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Permalink Reply by Emily-aaronsgirl11 on
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No. Technically they can't prohibit them from getting married. They can advise against it and make their lives awful if they do it anyways, but they can't stop you. That being said, most times the command could care less. Getting married boot camp weekend they are told not to get married, have people done it? Yes. Were they supposed to, no. And they probably got in trouble for doing so. When they're in A school they usually have the guys do some sort of counseling ahead of time just to make sure young sailors aren't making rational decisions, but once they're in the fleet I've never seen a command require counseling or paperwork.
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Originally, my fiance and I got engaged in February of last year and planned to marry on the 22nd of May. But into the year he made the decision to join for various reasons. After A school just so happens to be around the time our wedding supposed to be. Everything seems to be so much harder at time... stressing.
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