Confused mom

[Jojo1976]

Hi All,

My daughter is leaving to boot camp in July.Everyday that passes I dread the day is creeping up way to quick. I hate this feeling I have I spoke to her about joining the Military since she was young believing this was the best choice for her. Now that the time is coming im coming to regret all of that. I cry ever day im scared, sad and confused. She is my one and only daughter and we are super close. I try so hard to be strong but I cry all the time. I cherish all the time we have together and I am so proud of her but its so hard. I know I am not the only one who is going through this and feel foolish at times for crying. I just needed to vent sorry I dont know what to do anymore....

[jaguar11619]

Hey Girl,

Don't be hard on yourself for your feelings.  NavyForMoms is just for people like you (and me!) to find the encouragement we need to be able to share encouragement with our babies who are growing into sailors! Boot Camp is the hardest time - because communication is limited, but take heart: when it's over, e-mail, facebook, and phone call communication will return back to full speed! And the Navy's basic training set is so much shorter than the Army's 13-week version. 

The Navy is going to hand your daughter so many keys to success... Military background that looks excellent on all resumes, lots of training, help paying for school, and TONS of self-confidence. You've guided her to it for many reasons of your own - don't lose sight of them now.

Enjoy the time you have with her right now and don't worry about the future.  Each day holds enough challenges of its own.  Please don't be too hard on yourself for your emotions, and remember: she'll always be your little girl - the Navy isn't going to change that.  It sounds like your bond is strong and it will stay that way.  

[blond305]

Jojo1976, I am there right with you, My daughter Samantha will be leaving June 18, I'm crying but happy for her at the same time. She joined DEP last summer so its been a long journey. Today is a very hard day because she graduated High School last night so now there is nothing to distract me from her leaving in June.  We are very close and she is my best friend. THANK YOU NAVYFORMOMS. This site has been the only thing keeping me sane. 

[B'sNukeMoM⚓️MMN(Vet)]

Hang in there!

[kbuddy]

This has been the worst thing I have ever gone through- what helps me is researching what my son will be doing every day- I also try and mock his training in the gym- does anyone know when I get a letter from him and his address- he has been gone for ten days- got the box but nothing elce

[lemonelephant]

It will come soon. Ten days after arrival is average.

[judy r]

It's ok to cry its your release. I've been a Navy mom for 30 yrs my oldest son was in special ops his job was to insert and extract his SEAL team after boot I had no idea where  he was half the time. My youngest son followed him but went surface on those big gray ships he is now 4 yrs from a 30 yr retirement. I have been in his pocket as he traveled the world. Followed him on a world map with his letters and emails. Saw the Arctic Circle with him The Holy Lands Spain France Italy Egypt and 18 months of Afghan.  As Navy moms we grow to be stronger every day as our sailors go about their duties we are the strongest women next to wives/husbands our sailors have. You are joining a great group we are the best because we loaned the Navy our best.

[ATAM COLES DAD]

Well said Judy R, thank you for their service a well as yours:) BUT YES WE DID LOAN THE NAVY OUR BEST. i LOVE THIS SITE. i LEARNED ABOUT IT FORM ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS ( EX WIFE) OUR SON IS DEPLOYED. USS BUSH:)

[judy r]

Thank you Coles dad just to add a bit more on the 20th of May my grandson went to Boot Camp. So now I am passing the navy mom torch to his mother and adopting the Navy grandma title.

[Jojo1976]

Thank u :-) all so much this site and people are really helping me. God bless. Happy Memorial weekend...thank you to all of those we lost, who have served, currently are serving and the ones getting ready to serve as well as the families who have stood by there side through it all. Take care.

[lemonelephant]

Check your My Page.

[ATAM COLES DAD]

she is about to go on the biggest adventure of her life. when she gets to boot tell her to pay attention to detail. My son told me that they trip most people up on the little things. Also tell her to get in shape now because it will be so much easier when she gets there:) have a great day. This day and age the Navy is the best thing for kids:) Grows them up right:) we do are job then they get polished. She just need to pay attention to detail, have a great attitude, ( another word get it to her head she has to do what they say ,when thyey say it) or it will be very hard she"ll do well mom, cry happy tears that you grew her up, and now she is on the next part of her life. yes you'll mikss her. But my son is onn the USS BUSH an aircraft carrier he's been deployed for lik three months. i get an email from him like every other day. very cool. not like it used to be when you didnt hear from a person for months:) cry happy proud tears:)

[Tammy]

I am with you. My daughter has PIR on May 30. It has been the longest time we have ever been apart and with little contact. She has done well. Better than me probably. They have a lot more to keep them busy. She is my baby. We also have a very close relationship. It was so hard to say good bye epically after just loosing my dad in November. And she was by our side the whole. So needless to say I felt like I had lost 2 people I love in less than 6 months. But the great thin is, she is stronger than ever! And I am busting at the seams to get her "I'm a sailor" call and see her. It has made me appreciate things a whole lot more. If you ask my daughter she was SPOILED more before she left. Your daughter looks like a very strong young lady and she will do great!!! Ps: sorry for the rambling. :) good luck to you both.