Unprepared

[mum Z]

16hrs since I received that scripted phone call from my son. Unaware of the "scripted" part and or length of phone call (48 sec). I could hear stress in his voice. Also unaware of being able to have accompanied him to his recruiter meetings for preparation on what to expect after final swear in. Maybe he thought I wouldn't have been as supportive had I attended. Definitely unprepared for this journey. Never been away from my three children. My heart feels heavy. Experiencing detachment with my children becoming adults and leaving NEST that's been built with a strong foundation with walls insulated with ADT security. Now not even being able to communicate with my middle child and only son. I feel as if I'm grieving or had a loss. Emotions from PROUD, SAD, UNCERTAIN, EXCITED for his journey, and LONGING to hear him say "I'm going fishing". Never thought it would be so hard to fold his clothes, walk past his door, pick up his shoes, or not hear his car crank. Wondering if there are other navy moms who have experienced these feelings? Today only cried once and here I am writing without tissues thanks to the support from another navy mom (whose ex navy chief).  

[jaime2maggie]

Had the same call yesterday also, and your post just made me cry again. I am feeling everything you are feeling.  Its hard not to hear her voice when I get home. Hoping this next go by quick.  I am new to this forum,  so maybe we can keep in contact

[Zina Ball]

Well, to say the lease...I'm also a new Navy mom and my son left today...off to booth-camp he goes...I'm a single mom and it's very hard for me...I have not cried yet but I feel the tears about to fall...I know I have to stand tall for him...I've decided to relocate back to New Orleans Louisiana with my parents so that they can help me with my daughter who have CP.  But with all the post regarding our/yours different experiences that we will encounter...this will be the only way that I will stay sane...please keep me and my daughter in your prayers.

[Patrick's Mom]

My Son left today also! His Dad is cutting the grass and I'm trying to decide weather to curl up in the fetal position or do something. I think the first one will win! I'm not sad or scared just missing him and access to him. It seemed like a great group of recruits he swore in with so that was reassuring. We are so proud of all the young men/ women We saw today. I will go back to work tomorrow and just pray for all of our kids!

[krisnc (ship 4 div 197)]

my youngest son left a week ago today....my oldest has been in for two years...I miss them both terribly....and am so incredibly proud...their dad and I are. both navy veterans and to have them also answer the call to serve is awesome! I found this site the first week of my oldest's journey and it was a godsend all the way through a scho... I cannot for the life of me remember where to find the specific ship and division pages so that I can chat with mom's of kids in same group as my son.....? anyone?

[this_navy_mom]

I feel you.. I received the call last Wednesday night. I have not stopped thinking of how he is doing. This is my first child to leave the nest and it has been very hard on me. And Yes I cry all the time since he left, but I am very proud of him.

[Peytonswater]

I feel like it's me writing what you said, yet my son don't leave until June 16th.

So I really have nothing to offer as in advice or experience since your journey is ahead of mine.

I feel frustrated and out of the loop pending him leaving. I keep asking him questions and get no anser, frustrated answer or not detailed enough. Little things..probably irrelevant things. I just had a good cry in his arms out back as he answered some questions and told me he is scared.

I don't know where time goes, but it goes.  

just know your not alone, even if my journey is behind you. :)

angie

[Bernapet]

Hi, my son left two days ago and I am feeling the same way. It is so hard. We are proud, but the mom in Us Hurts so bad. I'm with you!

[lemonelephant]

zena33, The RTC asks that you wait on The Form Letter. I left info on your My Page.

[fayegirrl4*]

oh Unprepared... right with you! Our son left July 7th. Count yourself lucky with a 48 second call. I think ours was 20 seconds. That was heart wrenching for me because I tried SO HARD not to cry. My mom and I had just seen my son just after he took the oath but something about hearing his voice. I managed to keep it together until after I hung up. I still have my moments when I tear up if I look at a picture of him or think back to what we were doing last week. I suspect we all will have those moments but that just affirms we have done an awesome job raising children that will succeed!

Keep writing/typing letters(just finished my first one) and remember that PIR will be here before you know it!

[jaime2maggie]

Its very hard the first weeks. Write as much as possible. And always keep phone handy. I only got 3 calls during bc. Good luck.
My daughter left in April.

[PA Mom]

My daughter leaves the end of the month for boot camp....I keep telling myself that this is a happy time for her ...and I am so proud...but part of me feels like my heart is getting ripped out

[jaime2maggie]

I can relate so much to your feelings. My oldest left in April. She iz 19 and she is my best friend. I missed her so much, but i wrote as much as possible. I still miss her now that she is in A SCHOOL. Im sad she's getting shipped off far right away. But in a way we've become closer. Tell your daughter to prepare physically for bc.