I felt like that too! My son left November 4 and I haven't cried since Sunday :-) It just takes time, but what helped me most is this website. Read all that you can. It is helpful, and the people are wonderful support! My friend whose son is in the AF told me when she got sad she wrote letters so I have also done that. I hope this helps you. Hugs!
Its not my child but my fiance and I have been going to the gym.
I am going to the gym too. I am taking out my frustration on the treadmill. LOL Now if I can only stay away from the doughnuts when I am depressed...I may lose some pounds! LOL
Doughnuts are like vampires, if you don't invite them into the house, they can't get you!
I may have to borrow that line Anti M. ;-)
-Tiffany (N4M Admin)
Start writing letters, use your strength to give them strength. Use this website to vent, ask questions, or just to talk. There is a lot to learn, use your time to find out what is happening, what they will be doing in the weeks to come ect. This place is the only thing that kept me sane! I am excited for my SR's call today and graduation on Friday- I am really excited to meet the other moms that I have had dialogue with over the last 7 weeks.
Good luck to you and your SR- Everything will be fine :)
I was where you are now, in Nov. 2010. I was on the verge of tears everyday!! Soon you should receive 'the letter". It is a form letter from RTC telling you the ship/division number and PIR date for your sailor recruit. If someone doesn't beat you to it, you can create a page here for that specific ship/div and or PIR date. You will meet other moms from that ship/div or PIR date who will be your lifeline. When you get to meet them ,in person, at PIR, it will be so awesome!
Hi, I am a guy on the wife's site (I signed her up but I use it) because I'm a very sensitive man who went thru boot camp 33 years ago. I chose not to use the Navy for Dad's site because I empathize like a woman and cry like a woman and men usually do it behind closed doors. Let me tell you that I know exactly what you feel. My wife and I had my son thru invitrofertilization and have treasured every single moment of our son's life. The tiny years where Ice Cream drips down their face and onto the floor and the years where they start maturing and don't really want you around that much! There, in my opinion, is nothing like dropping your son or daughter off somewhere knowing you may not hear from them for weeks or get a call. My son was allowed his first call after arriving and called his girlfriend to let her know he made it and lo and behold I found out from her late that night that he only reached her "voicemail." Talk about really feeling bad. I told him to call her if he wanted to instead of us but my wife didn't know that. Both of us were like scared flies in front of a bullfrog! This is a cool site and from the little time I've spent on it I see everyone is in the same boat. There are many caring parents out there. That goes contrary to what you hear on the news or what you or anyone may think. And, that is good to know. Shed tears for that is a healing process that was put there in my opinion by God. If you are a believer and even if you're not by the time your "child" gets thru this it will only strengthen your faith! One once said (don't know who), there are no atheists in foxholes. Let us pray for our "kids" and their leaders and this country. God bless you and prayers go out to you and all- please if you want, read "Birth of a Sailor" in the Blog section. I find it comforts me to talk to people who are going thru the same journey!- Seqouia
I write to my SR every day. I also keep a small journal and write in it like I am talking to him. It helped me.