My 19 year old son entered the navy last November. He met a nice gal who is also navy. They currently have duty stations in different states. He has informed me that they have already spoken about marriage, spoken to her parents, and are willing to wait till at least 21.
He is so not ready; he needs to mature, he needs to gain some life experience, he needs more time to really know her (and vice versa), he needs to be financially ready (he struggles to make his meager car insurance payment each month), he hasn't had a lot of dating/relationship experience.
I would like to think they will wait, let the relationship, and themselves, evolve, but a long distance relationship can cause one to do hasty things.
He is convinced "they know what they are doing."
He is stationed close to home and comes home every liberty so I have the opportunity to see just how NOT ready he is to even be considering such an important life decision.
He had once been so focused on military, his goals, and now I see how this relationship has distracted him, caused him to be emotionally distant with his family, caused him to change his goals at least three times in the last several months.
I am praying over this, we have had a heart to heart, but am still not convinced they will wait a few years b/f taking this leap. Help, I need the words of wisdom to guide my son.