Comment

Comment by Rose7..Norfolk on December 31, 2010 at 11:59pm

ElizabethC....I perfectly know what are you going through.  This is my first son leaving home too so it was very hard for my in BC.  Now still hard but he left Wednesday morning and I was worse than the first time.  To tell you that I start crying and he keep walking and He look back and I don't  know what he saw that he came back and give me a hug and told me MOM I will be fine.  He took his cell and laptop and everyday he's been calling at night and we talk for a least a good 30 minutes.  He share what he do during the day and is awesome!!!  Today he is (is 10:55 down here now) in NY with a group and he send pictures of the Trade World Center around 5 and then around 7:30 he call me and I miss the call because I was at church.  But my point is that is going to be better.  I'm sorry that I give you all this speech but I'm so happy that if you ask me a little I give the all speech.

Comment by ElizabethC on December 31, 2010 at 11:47pm

I want to thank everyone for their kind words and support and reassuring me that I am normal and not ready to be shipped off to the coocoo bin.  I think after hearing my friend tell me that I needed to "talk to someone" (and no she does not have a child in the military nor does she have a child close to the age of leaving home so her world is very secure right now) and then watching T start getting his stuff packed for school hit me like a ton of bricks, I knew he would be leaving for school and then eventually he will be in the Fleet but what I didn't realize was that it would be this hard, (I figured the emotions and tears stopped when BC was over) so I will tell myself from this point on that if the tears come they come it is ok because I'm not just a mom I'm a Navy Mom and that's pretty special.

 

HUGS & KISSES to all of you....have a safe and Happy New Year

Comment by nanny2 on December 31, 2010 at 10:59pm

Mary-  She sounds like a real witch. I will pray for you & your family. But I have a feeling this will work in your favor.

B's proud mom-  beautifully said   I wish I could speak w/such grace from the heart.

My son downloaded Skype  & bought me a web cam for Christmas. I have to tell you that was the 2nd best gift, the 1st him being home. I guess that means he does want to see mom while he is in San Diego.

Comment by B's proud mom ship03 div027 on December 31, 2010 at 10:23pm

AND....it's been 20 years and I don't know about now...But, my friend went through the same thing and the military did not play games with it. They backed him every step of the way and the judge was not very happy with the mother. He said she clearly planned it out and he wasn't playing her games either. My friend was stationed in the south so he didn't get to see his daughter all the time but the mother did have to comply with the court order and pay half the flight each time he had his visitation.

Comment by B's proud mom ship03 div027 on December 31, 2010 at 10:14pm

Mary- I am so sorry. These "girls" don't realize who they're hurting the most, their own child. And when so many fathers walk away from their children, she should be thanking God that even though the marriage didn't work out she chose a good MAN who would not only be there for his son but strive to make his life better. Arrggg, sore subject for me! Sending you both a big hug!

Comment by Lori_KingsBay_USSRI_Radio on December 31, 2010 at 10:10pm

((Hugs)) to you moms who's sailors are packing up ....... its not easy nor should you feel bad for tears; this is a pivotal moment as a parent when your child leaves your home.  BC was a trial - this is real.  Cry if you need to as its part of the process.  I second what Cindy and Betsy said; the phone contact makes it way easier.  And, if you don't have Skype - download it!  We just skyped with A for 30 minutes and had a blast - we saw his room, met his room mate.  His room mate is a genious - the only way we Skyped (because A's internet isn't hooked up until next Weds.) is S usb'd his phone into A's computer and set it up!  Bingo and it was the best present - can't even tell you how much it helps to visually see your child while you talk to them.  If you don't have a built in video camera, Logitech makes an inexpensive one for around $30 and they go up from there.  My iPod has Skype video (Skype video just came up so upload the App if you have an iPod as its a free App).  Hang in there gals, trust me when I say you will have better days.  A school or BESS is nothing like BC.  Thinking of each of you!

Comment by Betsy, mom of Stennis sailor on December 31, 2010 at 10:10pm

B's proudmom.  Thank you for your words of wisdom.  Your aunt is a very smart woman and obviously a very generous woman to have given birth to boys who have served for so long.  Please give her my thanks and love.  ((hugs)) to you.  

When I have a down day, and lately, a lot of them are, I come here.  Our chat group is wonderful and we have many laughs on there.  They always make me feel so much better.  

Comment by Betsy, mom of Stennis sailor on December 31, 2010 at 10:06pm

My goofy son just texted me a picture of a tattoo on an arm, with no explanation.  Thank goodness it was his roommate's arm.  He thought that was funny, but of course I didn't.   lol

Comment by Sparkle_Mary on December 31, 2010 at 10:03pm

Ladies I am a wreck! I am MARY.. for those who know me by that.

 

We had a wonderful Christmas filled with laughter and happy faces. J left Wed. for CA and when I got back from the airport.. I got the knock of death on my door. While J was flying high in the sky I was made aware that J's ex-wife had filed for full custody of thier son. J and her had discussed parenting arrangements before he left and had an agreement to do a parenting plan after basic and were agreeing on the visitation arrangements and then this happens. J's life revolves around his son.. he is not one of those dead beat guys that doesn't care.. J loves his son with every inch of his soul! J waited until his son was old enough to know who he was before joining the service after his marriage fell apart... he sees his son every week and talks to him every day he can! He joined the service to serve his country first and fore-most but also to give his son a better life. To start him out good in life and not struggling like we were. He wanted to be able to pay for him to go to college and not have to struggle like he did. He is giving his life for his country and for his son and she wants to take that away from him. She planned this all along.. waited until he was in BC and tried to get the papers served before A school. He is all the way on the other side of the US and he feels completely helpless. She has stated that she is fighting for full custody because he joined the Navy.. that's some bull sh*t!

Comment by nanny2 on December 31, 2010 at 9:53pm

Your right BC is totally different than leaving for college. This is a whole new level worry  not being able to talk or my son's favorite texting me.  I don't want to imply that leaving for college is the same as BC, just the empty nest, being worried & of course missing him. I have trouble expressing what I want to say sometimes, ok maybe all the time.LOL   Betsy  enjoy your wine & hope you watch a great movie. You deserve it.

• ‹ Previous
• 1
• …
• 110
• 111
• 112
• 113
• 114
• …
• 144
• Next ›
• Page