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Comment by B's proud mom ship03 div027 on December 31, 2010 at 9:51pm

Elizabeth, I think everyone has said it and said it well. I'm going to add my 2 cents anyhow, lol. I haven't really been on here much, just quick short bursts because I've been a mess. Sheesh, I'm tearing already. I miss my "baby" so much. I talk to her everyday now and text all through the day. She has been moved out of my house, running her own house, and going to college for three years. I'm still a mess! Lol. My Aunt who had two boys in the Navy for 24 years said "It will never go away. You will ALWAYS worry, you will ALWAYS have teary days. They will eventually get fewer and farther in between. You are a mother." She's a pretty smart lady so I have my tears and trust that it will get better down the road. I'm so happy to hear her making "grown up" decisions without me doing it for her but feel a loss at the same time. I lost my mom when I was 23. I have so wished she was here so I could ask her how she handled my brother and then 3 years later me going into the Air Force. I think she did the same thing I do, cry but suck it up when she calls, lol. When I took her to the train station to go back, I tried so hard not to cry. She was so happy and excited to get back. And I was so sad to see her go but wanted her to know I was "ok". She hasn't seen her mom cry much through her life. I was pretty ok until she boarded, then I lost it. I had a woman who was retired Navy hug me, a man, and another older woman. And they patted her stepdad on the back. No one said a word. They just KNEW.  When we turned to go to our vehicle a couple people said, "Thank you." Hang on here I can't see through the dang tears,lol. I think you need to go through it to understand it, period. I've said several times, wish I had found you all sooner but glad I found you at all.

Comment by Betsy, mom of Stennis sailor on December 31, 2010 at 9:24pm

nanny2, I'm so glad you found us, even if it was late in the game.  ((hugs)) to you. My Navy son is my youngest, as well.  He keeps telling me now, "Mom, you don't have to worry now, I will be just fine".  I have 3 children that went off to college and BC was totally different.  Anyone who thinks that it is anywhere near the same thing has no idea.  I'm looking forward to getting to know you.  

Ladies, please say prayers that I get through tonight without having a breakdown.  This is my very first New Year's Eve all alone.  I have always had people around me.  With the hubby on the east coast (I'm in the southwest) and 5 adult kids now, I don't even know how to begin to enjoy "me time."  I'm planning to have a glass of wine and watch some good movies tonight.  :)   

Comment by nanny2 on December 31, 2010 at 9:13pm

Hi Ladies, It's so nice to be able to have place to get advice, to laugh or even cry. I was late coming to N4Ms I wish I had found this so much earlier.  I have few family & friends that don't understand either. You see my son has been away at college for 3 yrs, so they assume this is no big deal, esp boot camp they didn't understand why I was on an emotional roller coaster. Maybe I am being silly or too much of a mommy but this has been like reliving the first yr of college again.  I had a hard time his freshman yr, he is my youngest, I don't care how old they get, you worry & miss them. He use to tell me  I need to quit being so much of a mom, I'm grown now. I do believe boot camp made him appreciate mom again. Elizabeth hang in there, if you need to go to the coocoo bin then we probably all need to go w/u, esp me. It is hard you will shed a lot of tears but that's ok, then out the blue you will think of something funny that was said or done & you will start laughing,  there were times I would do that & I think hubby was thinking I was nuts. You have a great support group here.  Have a Happy New Year!

Comment by Betsy, mom of Stennis sailor on December 31, 2010 at 8:37pm

Thank you Cindy. You all made it so easy for me. We are so fortunate to have such a fabulous group of ladies and I feel blessed to call you all my friends. Thank you all! You have helped me through some pretty hard times and given me many great laughs. ((hugs)) to you all.

Comment by Cindy in Snowy MN on December 31, 2010 at 8:33pm

p.s....I agree with Pheobe! THANKS BETSY! That's why I gave you a big shout out at the Meet and Greet too :)! YOU ROCK!!!

Comment by Betsy, mom of Stennis sailor on December 31, 2010 at 8:32pm

Oh no, Cindy.  I'm so sorry that the "crud" followed you home.  ((hugs))

Comment by Cindy in Snowy MN on December 31, 2010 at 8:31pm

oops, that was suppose to say "I have NO words of Wisdom!" below!

 

Oh, and I forgot...I just got back from a 3.5 hr visit to the Dr. with my other 'baby' Noah!! He has Bronchitis and a Sinus Infection for starters...his white blood count is very high so the Dr. said he definitely is fighting the 'crud!' (Thanks Boot Camp)! :( :( !  SO GLAD My E is feeling better in FL.

XXOO

Cindy

Comment by Cindy in Snowy MN on December 31, 2010 at 8:25pm

Elizabeth...HUGS first of all! And YES,  I was exactly like you, a emotional mess! I have words of wisdom, EXCEPT YOU ARE NOT READY FOR THE COOCOOO's Nest :) your girlfriend on the other hand may be ;o)!  They (non military) people just don't get it...my girlfriend actually told me when I was discussing with her how sad I was while crying...the day E left for "A school" "Wake up, your not in Kansas anymore!" (nice huh), and that hurt deeply too, and still have not talked to that 'friend' again, not sure how to approach her again! Its all part of the process I think...crying is good sometimes ;o)!! My E was my first baby...and first to leave home too. BUT girlfriend, I am hear to tell you... hope is in the air, "A School" is SO MUCH better than boot camp...Texting, talking, laughing on a regular basis. My E said "A school  is a lot like college, with discipline!" He loves it! They can get care packages...and happy to get them! They play Video Games and shop :)! Perhaps because it has been lighter these last two weeks due to the Holidays...and once classes start that may change, but they can contact you much more often...and they will! So, Hug him now...cry at will, and come to this site often :o) :o)!! I do...this is my therapy, and the next time your friend asks 'are you talking to anyone about this?" You smile a BIG SMILE...and Say with pride..."Yes I am, and we all cry sometimes!" SMILE Elizabeth! ((HUGS))! Hope this helped!

 

Happy New Year to you...and all you wonderful ladies I am so proud to call my friends!

 

Cindy

Comment by Betsy, mom of Stennis sailor on December 31, 2010 at 8:13pm

Elizabeth, ((hugs)) to you.  Don't worry about what your friend said, I'm assuming that this friend does not have a child in the military?  If she did, she never would have said that to you.  She would have understood and hugged you, like we do.  ((hugs))  I was a mess before A left last Sunday.  I actually started the crying process a couple of days before he left, just thinking about him leaving.  I do have to tell you though, that I have probably had more meaningful conversations with him, since he has left, than I did when he lived here.  We have been skyping, texting and having phone calls every single day.  It is so wonderful to see his beautiful face every day, even if it in on a computer screen. He even had his roommate get on Skype to meet me.  T will want to you know every aspect of his new life and will be sure to keep in touch frequently.  It is a little easier with the communication now.  I still miss A very much, but knowing that I can talk to him every day makes it not hurt as much.  You can do this, Elizabeth.  We are here to help you.  Please remember that we all know what you are feeling and, even though, it hurts, there are people who do understand.  All you have to do is come to us and we will be there to laugh and cry with you.  ((Hugs))

Penny, your tears are welcome here.  ((hugs))  We all love you.  Happy New Year and safe travels tomorrow.  

Comment by ctownnavymom_Groton_SECF on December 31, 2010 at 8:00pm

Happy New Year to all of you...Ns last night and he and his brother and friends are going to a First Night Celebration and then it is up early to head to Groton. Trying so hard to keep emotions in check! Even though I am so happy that we will be able to contact them frequently while in BESS and A-school, I can't help thinking that this is really it! ...oh darn there goes my mascara! Well ladies, if I am going to look even somewhat presentable for my gathering with friends, I better say goodnight...I always end up in tears on here! hahaha! :)

Happy New Year! Think of me driving to and from Groton tomorrow!

Cheers! :)

Penny

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