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Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:



**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  

Specific information on this policy change will be provided in the coming days and weeks.

We sincerely apologize for any inconvenience and appreciate your support.


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 3/07/2022**

Mask Mandate has been lifted but you are still required to be vaccinated.


Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Blue Candles

You can light a blue candle on special days and holidays or significant days for your recruit/Sailor or just because you thought of him/her. During BC, it is common to light a blue candle when your recruit is going through Battle Station-21 (BST) to send your warm wishes, thoughts, and prayers to him/her and the others in the division. Some light one when the recruit leaves for RTC and keep it lit until receiving "the box" and/or the form letter. After BC, it is common to light a blue candle when your Sailor is going through training, is taking an advancement exam and/or awaiting the results, or is deployed or in harm's way.

Some use warmers instead of candles since they are safer or post a "blue candle" on their computer. Some change their N4M, fB, or other social network profile picture to a blue candle. You can use any blue candle of your choice. There are candles available at many retailers and at and other places on the web. Some have used a Navy blue colored candle jar or votive glass so they are able use a candle of another color (perhaps the recruit's/Sailor's favorite color) inside or use a favorite scented candle without it having to be blue. There are anchor candles available at


I used tapers, pillars, and jar candles at times. I left mine unadorned, except maybe adding a ribbon at the base, but many add embellishments such as US Navy candle decals and/or charms. 

Scentsy has a US Navy warmer (available in the Patriot collection), shown below. I considered purchasing one, but at $35 I haven't gotten one even though a portion of the proceeds from the sale of each warmer benefits the military and its programs, but it may prove to be cost effective in the long run for some. I liked the idea of keeping the home fires burning for my loved one who is far away and a warmer just didn't fulfill that for me. I never got one, but if I had it would have been to show my support of the Navy, but probably not for when I wanted to light a blue candle for my Sailor.There are scented candles and unscented candles available from a variety of sources. Some blue candles really don't smell that nice, but there are some with great scents as well. My favorite has been a blueberry pie scented jar candle for its mild berry scent and deep navy color. There are warmers and electric or battery operated "candles" (from and other sources) to eliminate the hazard of an open flame.

Blue Candle Poem

I will burn my blue candle, and hold my head high.

I will burn my blue candle, and try my best not to cry.

I will burn my blue candle, because he wasn't afraid to take on the world.

I will burn my blue candle, in honor of all those who fight.

I will burn my blue candle, for all those who may or may not be there at dawns early light.

I will burn my blue candle, for every holiday, birthday and anniversary.

I will burn my blue candle, and pray for our Soldiers and Sailors that God has mercy.

I will burn my blue candle, until he comes home.

I will burn my blue candle, so he knows he is never alone.

Author Unknown

(The author may be CharlotteT (Sailor Tori's Mom)--see the entire poem at and

The above is printed on the lid of the candle jar available at and


May the Lord shine His love on our Navy Sons and Daughters and bless them and guide them each day and may the Lord bless each of us as we burn this candle in our home and in our hearts. If we can entrust them to the One who created them, we can be at peace because we know that He loves each of those Sailors, and we know how much we love and miss them. 

Author Unknown

For those of you with service members in other branches of the armed forces in your family, here are the colors for the other branches, but the practice of lighting a candle is less common among the other branches.
Air Force:  Light Blue
Army:  Green
Coast Guard:  White (or white and royal blue)
Marine Corps: Red (or scarlet and gold/yellow) 
Loved one sometimes give small blue candles as favors at their future Sailor's Anchors Aweigh party. shows what one mom did.
Blue Candles from others on N4M
Click on the picture to be taken to the source.
The above information is provided by lemonelephant, the mom of a retired Sailor.
Last updated 04/22/2018


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Comment by lemonelephant on January 27, 2019 at 9:03pm

Nic-ole', that is great.

Comment by Nic-ole' on January 27, 2019 at 8:56pm

My son last week at BC and grabbed a big Blue candle at Michaels, we will read the poem as a family and have him in all our thoughts as  he heads into the last few days as a recruit. Love this idea as we cant be there with him but he is on our hearts 

Comment by lemonelephant on March 16, 2015 at 10:46pm

I didn't mean to overwhelm you.

Comment by tammy8 on March 16, 2015 at 10:43pm

Gosh, this is so overwhelming. I have tears just reading this stuff and it is not even time yet..

Comment by lemonelephant on December 15, 2013 at 10:14pm

A mom asked me if there were Navy Unity candles. This is a site I had saved. I know it doesn't really go here, but I wanted to make sure I could find the link if someone asks again.

Comment by DaniGirl (Mikes Wife) on December 14, 2013 at 6:48pm
I am gonna do this too....
Comment by jessiesmom2013 on December 6, 2013 at 8:58pm

I have seen decals at meijer and walmart


Comment by lemonelephant on November 26, 2013 at 1:29am

Car window decals also work great on candle jars and glass chimneys that go around pillar candles. You need to be certain that the glass doesn't get hot though.

Comment by lemonelephant on September 5, 2013 at 10:51pm

If you want a decal for your car window or house window, try and

I found Navy candle decals and charms at Hobby Lobby a while back, but I haven't looked lately.

Comment by AHawk76 (Div 920) on September 5, 2013 at 3:11pm

Anyone know where I can buy a navy candle decal for my window? I have searched all over and cannot find one.

Comment by lemonelephant on August 26, 2013 at 6:28pm


Comment by Pilarcita30 on August 26, 2013 at 2:09pm

I am going to get my blue candle.

Comment by lemonelephant on August 9, 2013 at 8:57pm

jappyj, I'm glad to help.

Comment by Jappj on August 9, 2013 at 7:54pm

I Love this!!! I'm going out tomorrow to get a blue candle and light it.  I am also going to tell my family to light one in support of my sont!!!! thanks for the tip

Comment by lemonelephant on July 31, 2013 at 3:48pm

ChristinaMarie, thanks for the tip on the "Americana Candles."

Comment by ChristinaMarie (Ship 14/Div 298) on July 31, 2013 at 10:06am

This is awesome and something that I know will help me a lot... Thank you for the info!  I love candles and this is a very special way to feel closer to our Sailors.  I will be going to Yankee Candle to get one tonight... they have the "Americana Candles" right now and one of them is a Navy Blue with a picture of the American Flag on the jar. :) 

Comment by Lauriebelle on March 11, 2013 at 2:47pm

Wow love this! I have a blue star I put in the window already for our Army son and will now be purchasing pretty green candles for his wife, me and his Mom and sisters. I will be sending a blue candle for my SR along with his address info to all his aunts and grandmothers when he gets to BC in July. I am so happy to know of the traditions. I am big into that kind of stuff and it is so reassuring to have it. Thanks!

Comment by CatMom509 on February 28, 2013 at 11:35pm

I have a dear friend who sells Gold Canyon candles, which are jar candles.  Will see what she has available!!  Thanks for another Navy tradition to add for our Sailors!!

Comment by lemonelephant on January 17, 2013 at 12:53am

Glad to help.

Comment by Sunshine66 on January 17, 2013 at 12:53am
I learn something new here everyday!!!! Going to buy blue candles this week :)

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