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Comment by Mari on January 28, 2009 at 6:59pm

Jor-Jean and Kathryn, thank you for clearing this up for me. My son has shown an interest in the past of wanting to go overseas but I don't know, I can't imagine not seeing him for such a long time. I guess I will just wait and see what happens when he goes to A school.....we got to get him to bootcamp first, lol.

Comment by Mari on January 28, 2009 at 12:37pm

Can anyone tell me after their PIR if our Sailors will get to pick where they want to be stationed at? Are they usually sent to a station near their home or does it depends on where they are most needed?

Comment by Carol Aileen on January 26, 2009 at 3:51pm

Jor-Jean, did you check Costco? I can't remember how many minutes, but htat is where we got Aaron's. - I'm thinking it was for 1000 min.

Comment by AngiePNMx2 on January 25, 2009 at 12:16pm

To you Heather!! I will be thinking of you!!

Comment by AngiePNMx2 on January 17, 2009 at 10:45am

Comment by TexasMomof2 on January 16, 2009 at 12:03am

Jofsra, I'm amazed that people feel they have the right to question someone's choices in life. Even family members. I haven't run into this with my family because we have a lot of military in our background. BUTTTT, I have run into it with my husband's family. What I say to them when they start to question Jeff's decision........well, actually, I don't allow them to say anything any more.

What I do is interrupt because, truthfully, I don't want to hear it and I stop them short and what I say is "This is Jeff's decision. I support him and we all need to support him. You may not agree but he needs your support as do all our young men and women." If they start up again, I do the same thing, interrupt and say "This is Jeff's decision. Not your's, not mine." They are now at the point where they don't say ANYTHING to him about it. Which is hurtful, too. When we see my family, he gets slaps on the back and questions such as are you excited, are you ready?

Jofsra, don't respond to their emails nor their calls. Or if you feel you need to respond, then respond with "This is my son's decision, not your's. He needs your support." Be a broken record. Say the exact same thing each time. Tell your son to say the same thing. If you differ on what your response is, then the door opens for further discussion/arguments. Eventually, they'll quit asking when they realize all they get is the same response.

Jeff says that even some of his friends question his decision. He is the type of child, uh, young man that will stop them and say "What are YOU doing for your country?" He says this stops them every time. And these are friends of his who don't have any plans for after high school. It'd be different if they had college plans, but they don't. So he feels pride in knowing that he has a plan.

I have felt, at times, it necessary for me to defend his choice on behalf of him but I found myself getting into debates about the war, military, yada yada yada. I finally decided I don't owe anyone any justification for Jeff's decision and came up with what I said above. It works. It avoids discussions.

My husband's family, the ones who don't agree and don't say anything at all to Jeff about it..........they have sons who are 22 and 20 who live at home. Who take one class per week of college. Don't work. Sleep all day with no contribution towards upkeep of the house. Their parents pay for everything, cars, insurance, spending money. They don't pay rent to their parents. Sigh. I'd like to compare all of their lives 5 years from now and see who is where.

Oops. I'll get off my bandwagon..........

Comment by AngiePNMx2 on January 15, 2009 at 10:38pm

Well I don't know if this will work for family members..but one person gave us a bad time about it and I asked them "what are they or their son or daughter doing to protect you to have your freedom to say those things and to protect this country from those who wish is to harm them and to continue to live with out fear of harm for saying the things you are saying? So what are you doing to defend your freedom to say this what are you doing to protect me....My son is joining the Navy so you can have the freedom of speech to insult me,my son and his choice to protect you and lay his life down to protect you. What are you doing for him???" They did have anything much to say and we never heard a word about it again. I would and will say the same thing to any one who questions my sailors choice.

Comment by TexasMomof2 on January 14, 2009 at 8:02pm

Hey Jennifer! Glad you heard from Justin........I've been meaning to tell you that gosh, you have been on my mind! Just feeling a tad crummy from allergies, but when I read about the cell phone call, it prompted a memory from when my oldest was at BC in December '07. He took his cell phone with him and it came back in the "box" that returns their belongings to you. Get this, the cell phone was taken apart and was in pieces. It was so sad! LOL! My son's cell phone was (is) such a big part of his life........we all looked inside the box at those cell phone pieces and said "ohhhhh, that's sad looking!" (It did go back together.)

Memories. And to think I get to do this again in July. Hang in there, Jennifer!

Comment by AngiePNMx2 on January 12, 2009 at 7:56pm

All you can is smile...welcome to the Navy Mam!! LOL

Comment by AngiePNMx2 on January 12, 2009 at 7:36pm

That has happend before The hotel should extra toiletries if the they ask and in most cases but not all they will give it to them for free.

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