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Comment by momterp on September 21, 2018 at 12:35pm

Happy Friday, everyone! I’m rockin’ my red today!

Comment by momterp on September 21, 2018 at 12:34pm

Thanks ProudofK—as of now we are still waiting to hear definitively about graduation and leave—keeping our fingers crossed!

Comment by Amarrah on September 21, 2018 at 12:01pm

Oh, one more thing: any idea what kind of repercussions there may be? Like losing rank, pay cut? Essentially literally taking him back to when he finished A school. 

Comment by B'sNukeMoM⚓️MMN(Vet) on September 21, 2018 at 11:49am

I've got my RED on - how about you?

Comment by B'sNukeMoM⚓️MMN(Vet) on September 21, 2018 at 11:49am

Hi all - Happy Friday!

Amarrah - by rolling him back he's getting another chance to succeed.  Obviously they seem something in him to keep him around.  It is a hard program and there are so many components to it.  It's finding that right combination to make everything work.  He can do it - keep encouraging him and remind him of how far he has come.  But with that said, no matter what happens, at the end of the day, it isn't the end of the world.

Sending out good vibes to everyone who took the advancement test yesterday!

Comment by SailorsLIMom on September 21, 2018 at 11:32am

"Comps" are the comprehensive exams they take at the end of A school and Power School (maybe Prototype, too, I don't know that).  It's the test on everything they're learned in that phase of training.  Even if they did well up to then, failing that test gives a chance for a "Re-Comp" several days later IF they have passed all of their classes.  The grading system is complex, but because your son had failed some classes, he got rolled back.  Yes, it's a recently instituted opportunity.  Big blow to the ego, of course.  BTW, the chaplain is nondenominational: we have no religious affiliation and Daughter needed a listening, nonjudgmental ear. It's a "free space" where they can show some "weakness" (as they might interpret it) to someone who's familiar with the pressures they face, and their incredible naivete in handling them..

Comment by Amarrah on September 21, 2018 at 11:11am

Thanks so much! And I love it- Sea Sister! This is what's killing me:  I know he's taking advantage of the study time, and some of the instructor help. He goes to bed early and has told me how he needs to sleep (this coming from the kid that would stay up all night and say he was fine). And if you saw him, you'd know he didn't miss a day in the gym.

I appreciate all the encouragement and advice. He's never been much on religion, but I'll let him know about the chaplain, and I'll see if he's been in any study groups. I was trying so hard not to "mom" and listen, but he's not near as chatty as I am.  I honestly get more info here than I do from him sometimes. 

SailorsLIMom-  what is comps? I'm still learning some of the short hand.

Comment by SailorsLIMom on September 21, 2018 at 10:56am

Chipmunk, you're so, so right about what we can offer in terms of support!  Thank you!  And with #4 launched, you definitely deserve congratulations.  It's so hard to know when to "hold" advice, and when to "fold" it.  Sometimes I tell myself, hey, 200 years ago people our kids' age were running farms and raising families.  Our darlings can handle this!  Then I think, hey, wait, life wasn't so great back then, you only lived until the age of 40 and you didn't even have running water!  ;)) Nothing's perfect. We can only try!

Comment by Chipmunk on September 21, 2018 at 10:42am

NancyJo's comment made me realize I needed to clarify something. During A school my son was doing PT 2x / wk and running 5K 1x/wk. The comment on sit-ups and push-ups came from him when I was putting comments on the A school discussion. He realized that he was running, but still needed to continue doing push-ups and sit-ups to stay in shape and be ready for the PFA - dash for cash which they have to pass in order to rank up, I believe. 

I hope that clarifies a little better. Yes, he was still running. 

SailorsLlMom - your daughter's story is an encouragement for all to seek the help that they have available and persevere. 

My son had his E5 test yesterday morning. He knows the passing rate is not high, but he texted me and still said he hoped he passed even though he hadn't learned half of the stuff. All we can do is encourage and hope that our positive attitude will help them stay positive, but also that they will understand they can be real and vulnerable with us, when they may not be able to do that around others they are with, so just having the listening ear and not try to "fix" things unless they ask for advice, is one of the hardest things this mom has had to learn. My sailor is child #4 and I still don't always get it right, so we just plug on as well as moms, loving our children the best we know how.

Comment by SailorsLIMom on September 21, 2018 at 10:34am

Amarrah, our daughter failed the comps at the end of PS (fortunately got to re-test and passed).  She was greatly helped by some services the Navy offered: the chaplain (who's like a counselor, not a religious person), who helped with the "inner game" of this effort, and Medical, which helped her sort out sleep issues so she could make the most of study time. Seriously, this sleep stuff really matters, to help them retain the heaps of material they must learn.  She also joined an off-base gym so she could get a change of scene while keeping fit.  And she used instructor time to the max, because she found it so helpful.  Fingers crossed for your son. It's so hard to see them suffer this way!

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