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Comment by bubbymom (Nadine) ship 09 div 08 on October 15, 2010 at 8:40pm

Ditto that AnreaS61...This website has been amazing!! Who knows where I would be without the information you all have provided. I wish I had found this site prior to him leaving. I would have drilled him more.... They make you think "I GOT THIS MOM" so you take their word for it. Well, I'm feeling like I'm in boot camp and I can handle those RDC's....GO NAVY!! I had to put that in...I went to LSU never thought I'd be saying GO NAVY...:)

Comment by AndreaS61 on October 15, 2010 at 7:50pm

Exactly Maliz. Having a kid in the military is NOT the same as having a kid leave for college. Our kids won't have Christmas, semester and summer breaks. We can't communicate. Plus, we know our kids are struggling physically, as well as mentally and emotionally and we can't do anything to ease their struggles but pray for their strength. This website has been a godsend for me. I can't share my feelings with my recruit or with my teenage daughter and my friends don't understand. Thanks again, Navy4Moms for being there!!

Comment by maliz on October 15, 2010 at 6:18pm

thank you srm 54 fr your info. curious and stressed. will at least book a flgiht this weekend for me to get there and worry about geting back when things are confirmed. i would love for his sister and brother to come but ot sure, at least I can be ith him for the holida. Its comfortingto know that all of us feel pretty much the same way.so far ive found that all my friends at home give pat answers that all will be ok- kids that go away to c ollege are not in the same boaT- HA HA NO pun intended. thaks again for listening.

Comment by Jtm1987 (ship 2 div 902) on October 15, 2010 at 2:41pm

JM & srm54- Thanks to both of you for being able to put down in words what we are all feeling. It certainly helps. :)

Comment by srm54 (Ship 9, Div 005) on October 15, 2010 at 1:08pm

I guess that's all a part of letting them and letting them grow up. I will say that the night he left (he's my youngest) I felt so horrible - I knew the "active" phase of my mothering days were over and I felt very useless. I think I was suffering from empty nest syndrome. It took a couple of days and being on this website for me to realize that a lot of other people feel the same way and it is a phase of my life I had to go through to allow my children to grow and become adults. It is sometimes still very hard.

Comment by JM-ISmomx2 on October 15, 2010 at 1:02pm

I will be honest about something though. I wrote and had many people writing to my daughter. While I have sent a questionnaire and a few cards and many others have sent cards too, I am having GREAT difficulty in putting into words how I feel when writing to our son. My husband calls him my hearts desire. He is my baby and only boy so I almost feel like if I start to pour out my heart and feelings I will just fall apart. And I don't want to scare him with the emotions that churning up inside. I have only seen my daughter 3 times in the year that she has been in the Navy and it has been difficult and we have missed her very much. I know it will be just as difficult to see so little of him too. As military parents we just have to learn to develope the strength to make it from one visit to the next.

Comment by srm54 (Ship 9, Div 005) on October 15, 2010 at 12:50pm

JM-ISmomx2 - that makes me feel better about writing so many letters. My son was pretty independent and I didn't know if he would think I was writing too much, but now I'm glad that I am.

Comment by JM-ISmomx2 on October 15, 2010 at 12:47pm

While my first sailor was in bootcamp she too had to call for security information. She was very business like to begin with said that she only had a few minutes to explain what she needed and was very direct about it not being a social call. When she finally took a breath and all was said and done I said that I only had one question. And as a Mom I had to ask. How are you doing? With a catch in her voice that almost broke my heart to hear it, she said "she will be fine, that it had to get better, she just wasn't sleeping very well." You could just hear the ache of fatigue in her voice, the struggle she was having and it was very difficult to hold it together and not just cry right there on the phone. But I knew that if I broke down or caused her to do so, it would be more difficult for her after she got off the phone. I remember sitting in the parking lot after she hung up and just crying my eyes out because I knew my girl was tired, hurting, frustrated and a whole lot of other things that I either couldn't know or do any thing about. The one thing I knew I could do was generate as much mail as an encouragement to help her through her experience and be as encouraging as possible. They might say that they don't need or want us to write, but I will tell you from my experience that they crave hearing their name called at mail time. I work for a school district and was able to get some classes to write letters and send pictures ( the SDC classes sent the cutiest sailor pictures) and it really helped. We have to be strong so our kids can be strong too. We will learn and our kids will too by example. Stay strong moms, the first few weeks are the hardest for both recruits and families, but it will get so much better when we all start getting letters.

Comment by AndreaS61 on October 15, 2010 at 11:57am

Good morning all! I have gone back and read what I've missed. Bubbymom - you made me cry! I am praying for your son -- well, for all our recruits. Thanks ladies for all the encouragement. This is a rough process and our kids aren't the only ones who are having to toughen up. I am looking forward to getting letters from my daughter and will try to hold it together when she calls. Can't wait to see our kids at PIR all grown up and polished.

Comment by srm54 (Ship 9, Div 005) on October 15, 2010 at 11:41am

oops, I mean for my daughter and I the total cost was $491.00. My cousin, an American Airlines flight attendant, told me I did a good job so I'm happy with the price. He couldn't help me get a good priced flight on AA because that whole week is a blackout period. I checked other airlines and it was through the roof.

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