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Comment by Tammie (Daughter In Navy) on October 14, 2010 at 8:19am

Does anybody know can we send pictures ??

Comment by diannep on October 14, 2010 at 7:38am

bubbymom: Your son is in the "breaking down" stage of bc. Each of these recruits arrives with different expectations...some think it will be easy and cool and may act cocky, some are a bit apprehensive, some think they will "run the show", and some are scared to death. All of these types will be in the same division, so the RDC's have to find a way to reach all of them with their different attitudes and abilities. The only way to do that is to "break them down" and build them back up...the Navy way. As is with any breaking down process, it is not a fun thing. But you will observe the rebuilt result at PIR! They are still the same people as far as personality, etc....but something drastic usually has changed in how they approach things, their drive, etc. It truly is wonderful to see. When we moms get a letter or call during this breaking down stage, it is usually heartbreaking because they are hurting and cut off from all who mean so much to them. But when you realize WHY....then you know this is not a forever thing...and it is for the good of your recruit. I'm sure as moms, we would never agree with all of the ways the RDC's do it....our hearts are too involved....but watching those divisions march into PIR Hall....in unity....disciplined....following orders.....wow. We forget how many different backgrounds are represented within those ranks....but how these sailors now know how to work together. My congrats to to these RDC's....they do NOT have an easy job....but they must be so proud when standing with their "charges" on PIR Day...and they need to know "job well done."

It won't be too long before your son is wearing that uniform....and you will be dropping back into the new PIR groups and reading heartbreaking stories like yours here from other moms. It is then that you will be able to offer them hope....because you have been there, done that, and know the wonderful end result!

Chin up....he will get there....by the way, when my son went through, he said there was always a line of recruits in the beginning of bc to see the RDC's to quit. Not all of them, of course, but many of them...it happens during the breaking process! My son told me this is the first time in his life that he COULDN'T quit...he was forced to go on when he felt he couldn't...and he learned alot about himself during that time. I have seen major positive changes in him since then. I am covering all of the recruits at bc now in my prayers daily....

Comment by bubbymom (Nadine) ship 09 div 08 on October 14, 2010 at 3:32am

Thanks moms, prayed, turned it over to God and I'm feeling much better. Thanks for all your support. I know he's not one to give up. It's amazing how much our young people hold things in and try to be strong for us. I'm assured that before I hung up the phone and repeated that we are all okay, dad is working, your sister is now loving college and we just want you to focus on doing your best and being your best. I hope he got the message clearly.. He used to say mom cut the apron strings.....I just want him to know I'm doing better than he, my daughter, and my husband combined. I have you guys! I havent shed a tear...freaking me out too cause I cry sooo easily. But when it's our kids we get this amazing strength. Tears will come...I'll save those for graduation....peace out...

Comment by srm54 (Ship 9, Div 005) on October 13, 2010 at 11:44pm

Oh, bubbbymom - how hard is a conversation like that. But everything I have read and everything I have been told (by people on this website and members of my family who have been through Navy bootcamp) tells me that the first 3 weeks are the hardest. Wait, just wait. I think you will find in 2-3 weeks everything will change. Don't be discouraged by this phone call. It will get better. He needed to release to you all his frustration and the strange environment. But wait and see what happens. I really believe it will get better. Remember, thousands have gone through the same thing. And we are there for you.

Comment by bubbymom (Nadine) ship 09 div 08 on October 13, 2010 at 10:46pm

Hey guys, just got a short 10min call from my son. It wasnt good. He really broke down and said how hard it was. He was missing us and wanted to make sure we all were ok. He said he left mad and it was preventing him from focusing. I never saw that. I thought he was in the best mood. He said he was ready to quit...wanted to make sure his dad got the new job!! I confirmed that he did and tried in those short 10 mins to let him know that we all are okay and looking forward to seeing him on Nov. 24th. Too bad his sister wasnt here to get to talk to him...she would have made him feel much better. I think he's most concerned about not being there for her. She was having a rough few weeks in college and wanted to quit. His short letter today emphasized to her to STAY IN SCHOOL. Anyway, I told him to please pray hard...he told me he was and to please dont give up. My letters our letters are on the way.....His dad got a brief 2 mins with him and then he had to cut it short. I hung up the phone really feeling like I didnt get through. I wanted to hear him laugh...through the tears he just keep saying how much he missed us and wanted to come home. Please keep him and all our young people lifted. I'm still inshock cause like you srm54 he was too ready to leave...never cried about leaving. Had a huge party got to see everyone and felt good about leaving. As for your son wanting to come to New Orleans, yippie!! Despite all our unfortunate disasters we are still HERE!! I love my city (so hard to leave and not come back). I get excited when I hear about the love people still have for our little city. It's still filled with love, the smell of seafood gumbo, jambalaya, and anything you can throw together. The people are still soulful, southern hopitable and proud to be HOME. We welcome him with open arms.....

Comment by diannep on October 13, 2010 at 10:39pm

JMI: Praying for him and you all in this time of "not knowing" what's going on....

Comment by srm54 (Ship 9, Div 005) on October 13, 2010 at 10:12pm

bubbymom - I hear you on finances. But I know for me I would forgo so much just to be there for my son. He's had a really hard time since he graduated from high school. It seems like nothing worked for him and when this all came together, he was so jazzed. I have to be there to celebrate with him so I will sacrifice whatever I have to.

By the way, you live in one of the cities that my son most wants to visit. He was so excited to go to A school in Meridian, Mississippi ONLY because he's hoping to go to New Orleans.

Comment by srm54 (Ship 9, Div 005) on October 13, 2010 at 10:07pm

Tammie - wow, that just shows it pays to call and check online. My reservation was cheaper by reserving online. but I called the hotel to check.

Comment by shana-(kaceysmom) on October 13, 2010 at 8:36pm

is it better to get the flight and room together or pay seperate for each ?

Comment by maliz on October 13, 2010 at 8:08pm

i s agree so anxious se paymnt to the dr forthem to relase his meica recors.the recruiter wasmade awaare of my sons past history. it might jeopardizehis ablity to be a sailor. hes een waiting for this sot since dec last year-qui scool and his job.scart make any reservations at this point.hope we gt there.

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