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Comment by gotattitudesd on February 14, 2013 at 2:43pm

https://www.facebook.com/groups/437960142931727/

 Here is a helpful link to a support group for people in RCU and FIT at GL.

Comment by CTMom on February 14, 2013 at 1:46pm

How is everyone doing? It seems there isn't much activity here. Paul is feeling better. His PIR is set for March 22 as of now...but he has to be able to do push ups which he cannot do yet so he's still a phase 3. He feels as though he will be able to in time. Still praying for my son and all of your son's!! 

Comment by paces on February 5, 2013 at 8:57pm

disneyfan...YES! Ditto! CTMom. Although my son is 25, it still requires tough love. My son was so devastated at losing his Spec Ops contract that we never did get that positive change letter, but your son will be much stronger and a better, more confident young man. It is the hardest thing I have ever done, knowing the kind of physical pain he was in and then the mental anguish as well. You will have to dig deep and muster all you can for him. He will understand eventually that you were doing the right thing for him. It is good that they don't have him down to separate, but he will have to show them that he wants to stay. He will have to show that in everything he does. We will continue to pray for you and your SR. We were here for 8 very long months. There is light at the end of the tunnel, even though you can't see it now. Hugs and Prayers, Susan

Comment by CTMom on February 5, 2013 at 1:55pm

disneyfan - YES! You did do the right thing for sure. I believe he will be ok. I'm telling you there will be a change as time goes on. Paul's letters home are funny now and his calls are too....I figured he would have been separated by now based on the first calls and the first letter. It's just like kids who go away to college and want to come home and there are parents who let their kids come home and others who make them stick it out (not judging here at all, just stating a point). If the kids who are just a bit home sick stay....they end up staying for all four years....it's an adjustment, it's usually never fun and it's usually never easy. Keep praying for him to heal and for him to have continued strength and for you too...I will keep you all in my prayers as well. We are all here going through similar issues as you and we know how you feel. You are going to be ok. Hang in there!! <3

Comment by Calebzmom on February 5, 2013 at 1:40pm

This is Calebzmom---Jeanette---to disneyfan1968

My son's orig PIR  was  12-21-21 - but didn't pas his run pfa. This is week 15 for him and I have written, family and friends write, we take turns on diff. days so he gets letters all week. He last called on Jan 6th and didn't get phone call priv. for the last month. They take them from everyone if ONE person screws up so if youj don't get a call every other week just pray and keep on writing and I ask questions like weight gained, food good, runtime better, got a lot of snow, have any new responsibilites, etc etc.. This is week 15 for me and it was supposed to be 8 weeks and a week home for x-mas so I got the dreaded call the week before PIR and had to cancel hotel, flight etc. and didn't get to see him and still haven't seen him----You have to hang in there, be positive, get help from this site, group, and other groups. He is my only child and is 18 and we are very close--the longest he was away at all was 2 weeks at a time. I know he will be stronger and there is a plan.  He is going to SC to Nuke school for the Nuclear program when all this is done, then you can call, text, email, facebook, skpe and all when they get to A  school--so I tell him--run to SC,run to SC, run to SC---that's his goal to get his run time!!!!

Comment by AngelW (Ship 07 Div 060) on February 5, 2013 at 1:05pm

disneyfan1968, when my son went off to bc he was a boy.  he did not pass the run and was put in this division.  I had to be strong for him and tell him to work hard to pass.  Once he DID PASS it change him, he became a man - proud of himself.  He has more confidence than ever now.  He knows he can push past anything and come out on top.  He went through this for a reason.  Stay strong for your son and watch him grow into a man.  Prayer to you

Comment by disneyfan1968 on February 5, 2013 at 11:44am

Thanks paces and CTMOM. This is exactly what Im going through. He is upset and keeps saying how he doesnt want to disappoint us. So as it turns out they dont have him down to separate him or depression, but his records are marked that he keeps asking to leave. So I just wrote him a 6 page letter saying we love him and support him, but he cant keep asking to go home, because they will send him home and that it not going to be the best option for him. I know the letter is going to upset him, but I had to stand tough on this or he will give up. Do you think I did the right thing?  

Comment by paces on February 4, 2013 at 10:23pm

disneyfan1968...My heart aches with you. Our son spent from Oct - Apr 2011 - 2012 . It was the longest, most heart wrenching roller coaster ride I have ever been on. Everything these ladies have shared is true. You cannot afford to show any sign of weakness while he is here. He needs every ounce of encouragement and strength you can muster because he has none. He will cry and talk of how much he has disappointed you and his dad and will talk of just giving up. You have to be his strength right now. God has a plan for these SR's that are here. They wouldn't be here if he didn't. These boys and girls gather a strength and determination after completing BS that other recruits do not have. Let the Moms' here help you shoulder these burdens. They all understand. I come back to visit once in a while to offer comfort. Prayers, Perseverance, Patience became my motto. Will keep you and your SR in our prayers. Hugs and Prayers, Susan

Comment by CTMom on February 4, 2013 at 8:59pm

Good advice celynn...that's what many of the mom's here told me to do and I did. In the beginning I thought for sure he was going to come home. He was so sad, discouraged, sounded depressed...I wanted to say, it's ok Paul, come home...but I didn't...I did all I could to do the opposite, so did my husband. We sent letters every day and reached out to family & friends and had them send him cards as well. Each phone call has gotten better and better...and everyone here told me that's what was going to happen. We just kept encouraging him and telling him to stay motivated and told him how proud we were of him. I sent inspirational cards etc...it's hard for us to tell them to stay when all we want to do is reach through the phone, grab them and bring them home. They look for us to give them ok. I get how you feel, but I honestly think if you stay upbeat and happy and encourage him to stay, he will and in no time you will see the change...you will hear it in his voice, you will see it in the letters...it's amazing to watch your boy grow into a man. Best of luck. By the way...PRAYERS! I prayed to hard!! I know they helped. :)

Comment by CTMom on February 4, 2013 at 7:01pm

celynn - You will get a call from your son saying he is a sailor after he passes bs. He should be able to give you more information at that point. 

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