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Comment by CO-TwinSalorsMom on July 16, 2013 at 9:25pm

Oh double trouble that will be hard for you to go through the drop off, getting the Kid In A Box and waiting for those first letters only one week apart.  I at least had Sam Home for 5 more months. Sam was a little hard to handle for a brief period.  Mainly with his dad though.  So they will not be attending each others PIR's.  Are you going to go and just stay a week then to go to both?  That will be cheaper than going twice like I did.  

Pray for all to find a way to chill as all the twins go off.  

Comment by CO-TwinSalorsMom on July 16, 2013 at 8:59pm

My store busy again today.  Framing for an art show. I am busy texting with my son from halfway around the world right now.  It is slow as it goes to a satellite then back. So far he just said hi and why this is slow.  

Comment by doubletrouble on July 16, 2013 at 8:59pm

Yes, welcome Disy! So glad you are part of our group. Sierra, I hate to hear of all the angst your family is going thru, I hope it gets easier. We never really had to worry about jealousy with our boys, the one time they really were having problems was because their girlfriends did not like each other. Luckily, one of the boys broke up the girlfriend we didn't care for.
Disy, my boys leave for BC a week apart & I warned Jacob, the one leaving last that he is going to have to put up with me for a week after Darien leaves! But, I hadn't thought about it might be good for him to be with us after Darien leaves.
They have always been really close, same friends, even played the same position in football just opposite sides of the quarterback.

Comment by cathymgShip03Div367&ship11Div383 on July 16, 2013 at 8:51pm

Disy, My heart goes out to you, Bryce will leave in 14 days and I am already missing him sometimes. I want them to be about 12.

Your daughter will do great and I know we are all proud of our kids and their decisions that they have made to join the Navy. I hate to see my kids go, but can't wait to see how BC changes them. We will continue to cheer each other on and lift each other up, stay with us and we will all get through this together, what a great experience for all of us. It is so exciting knowing that our kids a so many great adventures in front of them, I pray that all of our children have a bright future and I think the Navy is a great first step.

Comment by cathymgShip03Div367&ship11Div383 on July 16, 2013 at 8:45pm

My problem is a little different, my boys gang up against me. I really have never seen any jealousy between the two, but I have heard them say that Audrey has gotten more then them or such, but that is not true either, they are always just trying to work me. They would never go against each other, they have each others backs, at least against me. They don't always hang out with the same people or do the same things, but a lot of the time they do. Right now they are working at the same job and they ride together every morning, they share a boat, 1 has a truck and 1 a car so they trade when one of them needs the other vehicle. Bryce has a a lot of trouble following the rules and sometimes he is very disrespectful even to the point of being mean sometimes. Gregory sometimes has a problem following the rules, but is most often the responsible one, although he is the one the wrecked (Totaled) his truck.I think it is going to be very hard for them being apart and they don't even realize it, they always have to be tough, they would never show their feelings. But they are charming and can work people like you wouldn't believe. They have all the older women at church thinking they are the best teenagers ever. They open doors, stand back and let the women go first, help everyone and take the Lady who is in a wheelchair home every Sunday after Church. At least I can be proud knowing that my boys do know how to act, they just choose not to be good here at home. And Bryce can have a pretty bad temper sometimes and that worries me.

Comment by CO-TwinSalorsMom on July 16, 2013 at 6:32pm

That Heart sore will turn to (as a Pensacola mom put it) liquid pride before you go to her PIR. Let yourself cry.  Start a running letter, write a few lines everyday till you get her address.  She will get homesick so keep it up beat.  Print photos on the letters.  

Comment by Sierrascrapper (ETN2) on July 16, 2013 at 2:52pm

So true 3boysmom. Twin moms and military moms are a different breed. I'm hoping that maybe when school starts back up that things will simmer down a bit.

CO-twin...the one who thinks he isn't loved is the one who seems to get more attention. We don't favor one over the other at all. We just seem to have to handle Nathanael with "kid-gloves" as he is so sensitive. I think the boys starting having their problems with each other in middle school. We still don't know what happened between them. Nathanael thinks his brother gets more attention because he is in the marching band. We help with all the events and include Nathanael in them too. Nathanael isn't involved in extracurricular activities except for a few occasions. So...he perceives that his brother gets more attention. It's so hard. They definitely have their own personalities and their own friends.

Comment by 3boysmom on July 16, 2013 at 1:39pm

Its so difficult to deal with conflicting emotions between your twins. I once thought those problems would end when they were much younger. My Cameron always seemed to have a more difficult time with things than Colin. But when they go to high school Cameron began to make friends much more easily than he had in the past. This gave him more confidence, but he still fought us at every turn about most house rules. They went through a period of really hanging out with different friends and sort of staying away from each other. I know it looked to Cameron like everything came so easily to Colin, but he refused to acknowledge how hard Colin worked for everything.
I think having the older brother helped a little with the jealousy because bib brother made it known from day one that he was king of the castle. Finally when the twins were 19, they woke up and joined together in dealing with their brother. It was all in fun, but they both had the confidence to not do everything he said. That seemed to be a turning point in their relationship. They have been closer since then, with a few incidents around a girlfriend coming in between, but that's worked out now.
It's something that moms of all singles don't understand, sort of like being a military mom. :)

Comment by CO-TwinSalorsMom on July 16, 2013 at 12:00pm

Favoritism really is hurtful. We had a problem with favoritism with their father. He favored Steve over Sam. Had to do with rejection from his father of him. Sam naturally liked cars and his da's father chose cars over him so from the get go he would not bond with Sam. It really hurt Sam. Just before Sam left he said to me,"you would think he would want to spend some time with me before I leave." I cried. I was never favored either, could never do anything right. Never valued, that is why he is an ex. I will pray that the two of them will talk together before one leaves.

Comment by Sierrascrapper (ETN2) on July 16, 2013 at 1:00am

First off...WELCOME Disy! So glad tou could join our group.

Man you guys must've known what I needed to hear tonight. The boys have been really going at each other today. Nathanael threw out that his brother didn't love him. I asked him if he loved his brother and he said yes. I asked him why he said his brother didn't love him. He tossed a note at me that his brother Jonathan had written recently. It was a letter of thanks to the people who have influenced his life and made a difference in shaping him into who he is. The problem Nathanael had with it was that it didn't mention his brother at all. I think it really hurt him to see it. I'm sure Jonathan had never intended for Nathanael to find it, but unfortunately it was tucked into a book that he just happened to pick up over the weekend to start reading. We know it was written recently because it mentions his recruiter in the note.

The boys have always tried to compete for attention. Nathanael was the smaller of the two when they were born and it seems like he always got the extra attention. Now it seems that Nathanael thinks his brother always gets more attention than him. Even though we are always bending over backwards to make sure he isn't hurt or offended or doesn't feel left out. It also seems the ore we try to give him attention, the more he seems to think we love his brother more than him. It's heartbreaking and I have been bawling my eyes out tonight.

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