more letters from T....

[just a girl with a broken heart]

I checked the mail today, and there was only one lonely envelope in there... a letter from my love ♥.

These were written on the 26th + 27th Postmarked on the 29th. They are much shorter than the last ones... and alot more depressing. He is wicked homesick. He put in a request to see the Chaplin, he is concerned that I have not written, but I have, ALOT! I hope by now he has gotten some. I mail at least one letter per day and walk it to the mailbox. I am on envelope #18.... most of the envelopes have 2-3 days worth of letters and pictures... other than the
fact the Navy screwed up and gave me the wrong Division # he should have gotten some by now... I have mailed at least 6 to the RIGHT Div #!!!! He never knew I didnt got to Maine or Maryland for the Holidays, so he has worried about me being on the road, because my plan was to go visit my family this holiday season but it was not meant to be so I never went....

He had his Swim Quals and passed. On the 27th he had his PFA (no idea what that is!) He worries about me and if I am doing ok, says hes always thinking if I have enough money and if I am making it by with out him.

The last thing he said was hes not sure if he made the right choice for us.

It just breaks my heart that he is so sad and homesick! I know he can do this! He is a very strong and focused person! I don't know if this was right for us and our future family but it was something he had become so passionate about that I was there to support him and would no way tell him no! I am not going to hold my husband back on something he wants to
do and then have him resent me for it, so I made a compromise with him, we will do the first 6 years and then re-evaluate when re-enlistment comes up weather this is right for us.

I know the point of boot camp is to break them down and build them back up... and he knew this to!

My heart is breaking in half all over again!

[TexasMomof2]

First, the letters from home lag behind in the beginning.....they will catch up and he will be thrilled with the avalanche.....same thing happened with my youngest son....he had his birthday 2 weeks after he arrived at BC and the letter he wrote that day was so sad....he said "today is my birthday and I didn't get any mail.  Maybe  you sent a card?"   AAARRGGGH.....the entire family and friends sent cards.

 

As far as him questioning his choice.....not unusual at all....pls believe me when I say this.  Others will soon chime in and say this also.  You will see this said many times on this website.  Hang in there....he will soon start to feel better and his letters will be more upbeat.  Just remain positive for him in your letters back.   Remember this is an incredibly stressful, life-changing situation for him and he's just expressing his thoughts in his letters but it will be better.  Just because he did choose this, and just because it's what he wants, this doesn't mean that it's smooth sailing.  It isn't.  But when he graduates and goes to A School, life will be better.  For him AND for you too.  :o)

[just a girl with a broken heart]

Thanks Texas mom... I appreciate the kind words. I know it has got to be tough, and I know it isnt an easy thing! My letters are always fun and happy, I even stamped our dogs paws on one... lol (our dogs are like our children) I am so very glad I found this website... the people here are amazingly wonderful and have helped me ALOT! I could not be more thankful. Hopefully if he did chat with the Chaplin it made him feel better!

[Anita MA Mom]

Hey Heather,
His letters will get better with some time! I certainly hope that he gets ur letters SOON! The PFA is their physical fitness stuff,like the sit ups,push ups and running. They have to complete all of this to pass BC. Occasionally some lag behind and have to do the run over but most always pass it. Just keep up the funny letters. Send him some funny cards,just not music ones though. I sent my son some clippings of his favorite sports teams to help him keep up. My daughters fiancé wrote him a letter with every word spelled backwards. It was sook funny, he really had to work to read it, Keep our chin up! BC will be over before you know it and you will be going to see him graduate.
Anita

[ChrisMom]

Hi Heather,  I totally agree with Texas Mom - my son questioned all of his decisions.  But now that BC is over, and he is in his next phase of training, he is  more confident and happy with his decision to join the  Navy!  - It looks like you're almost there - the halfway mark, that is.  I'm sure he'll be getting more letters soon, too, so keep writing!! 

 

One thing I did, when I remembered, was to copy my letters, so that in case my son didn't get them or a couple were lost, he could read them later.  When he came home, and I saw the large stack he had saved, I was pretty sure he got them all!! LOL