The truth hurts...but somethings just need to be said...

[bella [mrs. ae2]]

Dear N4M,

 

For those of you who know me through the public chat, this is for you. This is for all the women on here who gossip, slander, take sides, pick fights...for the women who for some God awful reason CARE WHAT YOU ALL THINK OF EACHOTHER.

 

I have been on this site for 2 years now and cannot count all the hairs on my head for how many times I have witnessed fights, been talked about, been talked to about others and been pulled into drama on this site. And I cannot count how many times I have told people that I don't want to, nor will I engaged or enable this behavior. Lets factor in one more thing, I am a wife, not a mom, I am 21 years old, much younger then more then half the women who use this site for "emotional support". Apparently another name for "support" is "gossip" "bully" "slander" "harass" etc.

 

So, let us be honest, eye opening and just plain blunt. This site, is 2 things:

The first thing that this site is: A CYBER WORLD. Which means, 99% of you will never meet eachother, yet for some reason you are wasting your emotions, time and stressing over altercations you engage in with people you will very unlikely meet in real life. So instead of worrying, wondering, stressing over the next big drama on this site, why dont you take that time and emotion and do something productive for your sailor, which brings me to my next point.

The second thing this site was made for is to SUPPORT OUR NAVY AND EACHOTHER. Which obviously is not understood with many women on this site. How many of your screen names are "proud <insert title here)" I bet you are proud of your sailor. We all are, but do you think your sailor is proud of you for engaging in all this drama? Cause thats why he/she is on a ship in the middle of the ocean right? So you have freedom of speach to get engulfed in the drama on a website?

 

I have left and came on this site countless times hoping when I decide to log back in that I wont encounter gossip, or drama. Hoping the site had changed, because I do find a lot of really awesome people on here who are loving and kind and willing to give the same support I give to them, back to me.

 

In short, ladies, don't let your actions define who you are. Because at the end of the day, you are a woman of a United States Navy Sailor, weather you are a wife, a girlfriend, fiance, mom, aunt, grandmother, or sister, you hold that title. You are looked at by the nation your Sailor is fighting for as someone who is Honorable, Courageous and Committed to this country just as your Sailor is. Do not fall short of who you are because of something so petty as interent chat rooms.

Let us take this site and use it as the tool in which it was created for. Support, advice, love and respect one another, just as you wish to be respected. If you don't like what someone has to say, you do not need to comment back. If you dont have anything nice to say, then do not say anything at all. And most importantly, respect people and their boundries. 

 

My intentions of this post are not to slander any one particular person. No offense needs to be taken and no names in this post were used so please do not assume this is about any one or one particular incident. Please do not comment if you don't have anything nice to say, because once again, this is an internet site and you need not waste your emotions on me because I have a different view on things then you.

 

I hope all of you and your sailors have a blessed day and happy holidays.

XOXO,

Bella



 

[bella [mrs. ae2]]

oh jeez denise. <3

 

[Craig]

Denise - Actually, when this was posted, you were the 1st one that came to my mind. ~ha...

I actually love a cat flight, what guy doesn't?.... It reminds me of this commercial...

btw:  Am I the only one that noticed the bra and panties don't match on the one girl?

I love it when two beautiful ladies fight over who gets to make me a sandwich.

 

[bella [mrs. ae2]]

lol you guys. I am glad to see there are still some people on here who have a sense of humor!! <3

 

[TexasMomof2]

Ship 12, Div 098.....same with me in some groups.  When my oldest was in corpsman school, I would go to that group.  What I've figured out is it depends on WHEN you "jump in" to the group.  If there's an established niche, it is difficult to be "let in."  They'll talk over you, around you.....but will make you aware if something you say is not approrpriate.....so I just read for info that I need and leave with that.

My youngest is a rescue swimmer.....and our group ROCKS!  We all help each other out and everyone is welcomed and checked up on.  That's the way it "ought" to be on this website.  We try to keep it that way.

[TexasMomof2]

Ahem, I wonder if they would've thought that was appropriate, lol?!   Now Lydia is in the rescue swimmer group so I think we know what THAT group would think.  Happy Holidays to you too!

[Lucy]

Woohoo! You go Bella ha. I originally went to your page to send you a
Comment, but this caught my eye...I couldnt stop reading
As soon as I started. I haven't came across any drama through this website, but then again I'm very new to all this and now I know to not be surprised to find drama on here somewhere. Ugh the nerve
Of some people lol. Well anywho like I was saying..the
Comment. My fiancé asked me if I was willing to marry him this month when he comes to visit from
Florida. Well I said of course because either way we will end up married. After our conversation I got a little bumbed that I wouldn't have an actual wedding and we were going to settle for the court. I don't want to sound selfish and I feel bad for thinking like that, but I can't help it. I thought of you cuz you give amazing advice and even though I don't know you I can tell your relationship is honest, strong and I love how supportive you are of your husband! I don't expect you to tell me what to do you don't even have to reply, but I appreciate everything you have to say and thanks for taking your time to read this. :)