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So is there anytime that they can get for a wedding ceremony? Me and my finance had planned on doing our wedding in April or May because he goes to basic in Feb. And the more i read the more i see that it is impossible to get married then! and neither of us want to wait and want to be able to be together when he does go to A school. and i cant get him to ask his recruiters about anything!! Its like pulling teeth to get him to do it. i really need help we dont have a date to plan anything on and also i havent seen anything about Engeniering? is it the same as Electrical? we dnt want to just get married at a courthouse we want our friends and family there but it looks completly hopeless! I am at a loss on what to do and could really use advice on this....

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OK--after thinking this over, my son was finally able to move into an apartment about a year after he started Basic. He went to Chicago early Dec. and moved off base to finish A school the following January. The wedding would have to be on a weekend and then no honeymoon til about 11 months later, but can be done that way if that is what your fiance prefers. My son also went to A school in Goose Creek. It is very intense, but I believe my son feels that it was worth it.
Ladies, I don't want to put a damper on Weddings at Nuke School or any where else for that matter, however, after being here for 3 years and knowing the amount of work and study time is involved in this program, I would recommend waiting until he/she is finished with prototype. I know that can be difficult to do, but in the end it might be the best course of action for everyone involved. At indoc for new nukes it is emphasized that their main duty and obligation is to work and study as hard as they can inorder to pass the courses and the requirements, everything else is secondary. I've seen many Sailors and their spouses go through some rather difficult times, many will get through this and unfortunately, just as many do not. But if a Sailor and their future spouse are intent on getting married one of the things I would strongly recommend to them is to take a pre-wedding program ( in the Catholic Church we call it pre-cana). This program is designed to help couples know that they are not alone when difficulties arise, that there is help out there and resources that will aid them in their marriage. I would also recommend for the spouses that once you get here or to what ever Base they are going to, they should enroll in Military Spouse 101 which is a program put on by Fleet and Family Services to help spouses understand that they are now a part of the Navy as much as their husband/wife is. But for the sake of the Sailor and his/her fiance I would strongly recommend waiting until they are done with school and are at their first duty station.
I married a man in the military 30 years ago. He went into boot camp while we were dating and I don't think that much has changed in a lot of respects in those 30 years. My advice would be to wait until he gets assigned to his first duty station after school to get married. This may be on a ship, but he will be able to arrange leave with his c/o that will be a sure thing instead of these maybe leaves that might happen between locations and schools that often don't happen quite as planned. If it's worth doing, it's worth a few months to have a wedding that isn't up in the air with preparations that might need to be changed at the last minute.

My Coastie and I got engaged while he was in Boot Camp. He was assigned to a ship on the Columbia River in October and was able to arrange a 10-day leave at the end of January. We were able to plan a fairly small (150 people) wedding and reception and then our honeymoon was a leisurely drive up the west coast to our new home. He had had time to get an on-base apartment for us and a few important pieces of furniture. He had had time also to get a housing allowence arranged. His school had been put off due to not enough available slots which meant that we didn't get much money. Had he gotten into school right away, we would have waited until he got through it. A lot of times, there isn't housing available for families of guys in school. it was more important for me to live in OUR home than to get married and move right back in with my folks. We would have saved some money for the wedding and/or our apartment while he was in school.
How about a christmas wedding? That sounds nice. They do get time off between schools but the problem is you will not be able to plan exact dates. Lots of things happen and sometimes he may get rolled into another class. My husband got rolled six weeks back due to Mono in power school so you can never really plan. Something to get use to now. I'm a planner and my husband's entire career, I've never been able to plan one thing!....but you get use to it.
Just wanted to add that my husband and I where married about 2 yrs before he entered the Navy and I planned not to move around with him until he finished all parts of Nuke school, but that was very difficult. He would go out with his friends and I with mine and We both knew it was best for us to stay together so I moved down after A school. You must realize that his top priority is school but even so you can be a great help to him. I know my husband would have never made it through all those inspections if it wasn't for my help with his uniform...hahaha. Also there will be other navy wifes for support. Just don't expect him to do alot for you until school is out. This is your time to help him get through the program. With that attitude then staying together during the various schools will work out fine. It's the wives with new babies and the attitude that their husbands need to devote most of their time to them that cause trouble for the sailor.
.........another word of advice. Don't believe anything his recruiter tells you!!!
No, do your homework and learn exactly what questions to ask ... most of the recruiters are honorable petty officers and I get a little sick of people who bad mouth them as a cover for their own lack of incentive and knowledge. If that's harsh, so be it, but MY recruiter did NOT mess with me.

And yes, power school is incredibly difficult for the sailor and for the families. Good luck to you all.
It all depends on the recruiter. Their priorities have nothing to do with dependents or potential dependents.I would add that the only thing you can depend on will be what happens prior to bootcamp. I personally wouldn't care if my husband had been delayed and needed extra paperwork done. I didn't even want him to join the military in the first place. There is a shortage of nukes so he'll still get in. I just had a bad experience with my DH's recruiter. I told my husband not to sign anything until he talked to me. Later that day when I had not heard from him, I called the recruiter's office to see if he was still there(40 mins. away) they would not let me talk to him(this was before cell phones...yeah I'm old). At any rate, finally they told me he was about to swear in.I was really upset and the recruiter said: "It's his decision, you have no reason to talk to him". I gave him a piece of my mind. My husband and I had been married 2 years and It wasn't just his decision. If he joined the military so did I with the hardest job in the Navy...a Navy wife. Oh well, he did join and we are still together 19 years later, but that recruiter really ticked me off. That's typical of the attitude the Navy has toward Navy wives. My career has had to suffer with all the moves we'd made over the years. Luckily, I'm in healthcare so I can always find work, but moving up in my career has been difficult. ....sorry I'm getting off topic.LOL
yeah his recruiter failed to tell us he didnt have weekends told us when he was in a school he came home every weekend and stuff...well that was said when we asked...can we get married while he is in a school..yea you get weekends off etc, not once was a phase anything mentioned but we are looking at February 2 days before he leaves that way we can spend that little bit of time together, and for me make that weekend a lot happier and easier on me than i expect
Update: I finally got a chance to ask my husband about your problem for his 2cents. Usually, I'm at work when I'm posting(haha...no time at home for these things). At any rate, he said his recommendation is to get married prior to BC or after A school but it would be difficult to plan an exact date due to all the variables that can occur. Remember he is a Master Chief at Nuclear field A school so that's some real advice from someone who knows the routine. Hope that helps.
My understanding from working closely with recruiters in my job is that they frown on recruits changing their dependant status before leaving for bootcamp, i.e. marriage, pregnancy, adoption, etc. There is alot of paperwork and waivers that will have to be gotten if that happens. It may delay his ship date if you go the route of marriage before bootcamp. Check with his recruiter and make sure of the procedures and go with the flow. A new marriage is hard enough in the beginning. Be understanding of what he will be going through that first couple of years no matter what you decide. He will basically be doing it all for the responsibility to take care of you. Good Luck!!
Yeah, they will frown b/c they have more work to do but I think he would still get in with no problem. I say go for it ahead of time b/c it will be much easier to plan and then you guys can begin this adventure together. Also, alot of nice looking (but questionable) women hang out by the schools/bases trying to pick up sailors....lol. Many sailors end up married prior to graduation anyway. Poor guys are lonely and vunerable.

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