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Comment by galefrank on August 19, 2009 at 4:21pm

Yes, you will. I'll pass you the kleenex in the meantime.

Comment by galefrank on August 19, 2009 at 3:25pm

Mine is long out of boot camp but it feels like it was just yesterday I was kissing and hugging him good bye. Got a question? Ask away. One of us is bound to have an answer. You should get a nice long letter soon. Have you started writing to her yet? Have you received "The Box"?

Comment by Sue-Pillowcase lady on August 19, 2009 at 10:39am

congrats to all-on PIR and new sailor going in to boot camp.

Comment by galefrank on August 19, 2009 at 1:02am

momof james, we are all here for you. Ask questions you may have and someone will have an answer.

Comment by galefrank on August 18, 2009 at 11:56pm

Great for desertdweller and blyswmn. Congrats on the PIR Friday

Comment by Sue-Pillowcase lady on August 17, 2009 at 10:40am

Yes, and in hindsight, I wouldn't show it to DIL either. She's probably as immature an mine was. She tried to cause trouble between me and my son. But I just wouldn't play her game.
But writing the letter, pouring out your feelings, will help you. You can use it as a reference to look back and see how far you have come.
Tell them to pick the place and you will provide the food or something like that.
Just smile and if you need to cry, do it on the way home!
Put on a mask-don't let them see you are upset etc. I used to tell my son when he was pitching-put on your mask. In other words, don't let the mean comments etc appear to bother you.
People think I am very aloof, but I'm not. I just refuse to let people's unkind words get to me in front of them. I will walk away first.

Comment by galefrank on August 16, 2009 at 11:50pm

Nothing wrong with writing it and not sending it. At least you've gotten it out even if not to them directly.

Comment by Sue-Pillowcase lady on August 16, 2009 at 12:03pm

Personally, I am a letter writer. The big question here is, do you get along with your DIL? If yes, I would write a letter to her family. Let your son read it, then her.

IF nothing else, it will help you to clarify your feelings to yourself. Then you can decide to send it. I agree with grandma and my husband always says "pray and delay".

BUT, it would be good for you to get your feelings written out. That is very theraputic for me. Maybe you will find that you can let it go.
My paraphrase of Ephesians 4:32 in the Bible is this: Be ye kind. I teach that to my 4 & 5 year old class at church.
So if the parties have to be changed to a neutral site, just smille and go along. You will gather more friends with honey than vinegar.

The main thing is this, you don't want to lose your son over the DIL's families. I had to bite my tongue so much when my son was married. And now he's divorced, because the 18 year old bride couldn't handle being a Navy wife and she had an affair while he was deployed and had a baby by another man.,
Yikes!
But I have a great relationship with my son- cause I bit my tongue. Hang in there mom.

Comment by galefrank on August 13, 2009 at 9:43pm

I propose a new group...Navy Mom's of Bryan's with a Y! LOL

Comment by galefrank on August 13, 2009 at 10:58am

Denise, Mine is a Bryan with a Y also. It was a zigzag cattle call. You froze....We sweltered. It was the beginning of September for our Bry and it was hot and humid. As I was taking in the throngs of bodies in the reception area our daughter started jumping up and down....her brother had been selected the Academic Achievement winner for his division and for the entire graduating class of 800+. We gathered with the other parents who had honor graduates and boarded a bus to the hall. We all sat together so I missed out on meeting the other parents who had kids in Bryan's Division.

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