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Comment by Anti M on March 19, 2018 at 10:28am

If he isn't eligible for overnights, he can put in a special request chit and ask to have them just for that occasion, for the specific purpose of visiting his grandmother.  

The liberty limit is 300 miles, if you are as near as that, no problem.  If it is a little over, he just puts in another special request chit asking to go "out of bounds" for one visit.  

There are always ways to work things out.

Comment by Bandmom on March 19, 2018 at 9:30am

runnermom,  He probably won't get "leave"  more likely it will be liberty.  Someone will have to accompany him.  It could be you or your husband.  Much like PIR weekend, he will have to meet you and you will have to go onto base and sign him out.  Hopefully you can get him for an overnight.  That all goes according to the ships rules.  But only two hours away, if he couldn't get an overnight, that is still close enough so that he should be able to see his grandma.  Praying for your family.

Comment by runnermom on March 19, 2018 at 8:47am

Thank you all for the input.  I got to talk to him last night and he is doing much better.  I think it was combination of Gma illness, girlfriend issues, and waiting for his class to begin, since he waited for 2 months.  He finished his first week of class and scored super high on the weekly test. He sounds motivated and focused again.  Anti M he are working at getting leave for a weekend to visit his grandmother.  We are lucky in that she only lives 2 hours from GL.

Comment by Anti M on March 18, 2018 at 5:05pm

My brother passed away shortly after my nephew had reported to A school. They let him come home on emergency leave, but he was too new to insist in more time than they gave him.  It was his father and he only had a week!  He wasn't able to return when his grandfather (my dad) passed.  A lot depends on which school they are at whether they can visit.  If I had to choose, it would be for a visit instead of waiting for a funeral.  They can ask for a long weekend on an out of bounds liberty chit rather than taking leave. The answer may be no, but it won't be yes unless they ask.  If you can arrange calls, skype, facetime,cards and letters, do that for sure.

As for bad news ... during boot camp, no.  During A school, it depends on your kid.  My cat died when I was in one of my C schools, my parents didn't tell me.  I wish they had, so I could adjust to the grief of losing a pet. INstead I came home for Christmas, excited to see my kitty, and she was dead.  Ruined my whole leave.  These are now adults, and should be given the opportunity to process bad news as adults now.  I know that's a maybe, but ask them, and update what they want to know when each year.  They're maturing, so some will get there faster than others.

Comment by Phoenixmom on March 18, 2018 at 4:25pm

Runnermom I am so sorry to hear the news about your mother, I know the feeling and worry you are experiencing. I lost my mother to cancer she was 53 yrs .  news like this could be a set back to your Son. And as the ladies have mentioned he needs to be able concentrate on his schooling. My prayers to you and for your Mother and definitely your son.

Comment by Bandmom on March 14, 2018 at 9:43am

runnermom,  My son is now out of boot camp and deployed, I still don't tell him any bad news.  They need to be able to concentrate on their jobs, and keep their heads in the game.  I only tell my son bad news (like someone being sick) right before he comes home.  At that time he knows that he will be seeing them shortly.  The exception is if someone in the immediate family passes away.  Then I will call the Red Cross.

Comment by Tony on March 14, 2018 at 9:01am

runnermom...   Do not tell him anything negative from home during bootcamp. When my son left for Great Lakes, we had an agreement that he would be told nothing negative until PIR weekend. The exceptions were if if someone in his immediate family passed away and that would be handle by the Red Cross.

Comment by runnermom on March 14, 2018 at 8:56am

Good Morning everyone.  Hoping all is going well for everyone and their Sailors.  My son has always been fairly quite but he seems to be having a hard time right now.  When I finally asked if I should be worried about him he said no. (of course) His grandmother (my mom) is not in good health and has recently been told it is cancer again.  This is hard for him because he can't see her and may not see her again. I regret telling him now.  Now I get to sit here and worry about him.  Wondering if I should keep future "bad news" from him?

Comment by Phoenixmom on March 13, 2018 at 3:38pm

Hi Ladies, just checking in to say hello, Glad to see you all are happy with the way things are going. I'm pretty happy myself, things are going Great, I finally received my Son's clothes. For a minute I thought they had gotten Lost, so I had Coronado post office and my post office looking for his clothes LOL! received 3 huge Bags, went thru and OMG! wish I didn't. HAHAHAHA! decided to wash everything and going to repack, need to show this Grown man how things are done!

Comment by KiddGreen1978 on March 12, 2018 at 9:25am

Hey everyone. My son has finally been given orders and he's going to end up at the same place as his brother, but on a separate ship. I'm excited, but I know my son wanted to be at a different base.

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