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Comment by Lovemynavyson (Ship02/DIV933) on September 7, 2011 at 9:03am

Stephanie - I'm sorry to hear about your night, one day at a time....I don't know maybe I'll freak out after the wedding...ehhehehhehe - It's been fun (making lemonade out of lots and lots of lemons)...

We didn't hear pregnant and marriage in the same conversation...:) but close enough..Actually when we talked to her that night, she wasn't sure...(I think she just needed to know we were okay and she had our 'blessing'...Matthew wanted to immediately get married :) (what a relief, again because it is so 'easy' and common place for young ones to get into a sexual relationship before marriage - get so emotionally attached and can't think straight..then get pregnant and the guy either leaves, they have an abortion or they move in together and the guy never wants to marry and the girl continues to dream of her wedding day and her 'happily ever after'...

I talked to Beth the next morning about it...wanted to get an feel for what they were thinking - thats when she told me Matthew wanted to marry immediately....I asked her if this was something that she wanted? She said yes eventually and I asked is there a reason not now...she said no but that she was scared because it is a big step...I smiled and jokingly said.'weelllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll (pregnant) I certainly DO NOT want them to feel pressure to be married - I think with love and support they can do it apart- but I also wanted her to know the decison was hers and Matthews. I wanted her to know we were OKAY either decision they made...she was reliefed, I think and told Matthew she would marry him...That night we invited him to come with us to a baptismal service my husband was doing for our friends daughter....before we left our house, Matthew asked my husband if it was okay that he marryBethany (I know its alittle 'backwards'). He brought her home alittle before we left and got down on his one knee and proposed to her that night...She was so excited and text us 'Are you cooooooooooming home yet?' She doesn't like to be home late alone, so her dad question her if this was why she wanted us to come home...NO...just huuuuuuuuuuuuurry home...We kind of figured then when she told us Matthew was still there - He was soooooooooo nervous (go figure : ) )....hehehhe He gaver...so the next day she and I went to pick out her wedding gown! And we haven't stopped with the preps since....We got ALOT accomplished in a wees time...Just need to secure a photographer...

Comment by Paula (was Capricorna) on September 7, 2011 at 6:38am

Wow - I'm just waking up and find there's a bunch of stuff going on here!

JessicaB - your energy is incredible.  Can't wait to hear about all your bridal stuff going on and your upcoming visit with your Sailor/Fiance!

Lovemynavyson = Huge Congratulations on the upcoming marriage and grandbaby.  It's funny how just as I started thinking about how wonderful it is that your daughter didn't consider abortion, you brought it up in your posting.  It sounds like the daddy is a good guy (important that everyone likes him).  Your family is growing and changing in good way.  I never had a daughter, so I can't imagine how I'd feel if I were in your shoes.  I know the first thing I thought of when my son called to say he needed to talk and get some documents from me, was that he was going to be a father.  What a surprise when he said instead that he joined the Navy!  I know my parents would have been horrified if I got pregnant and was not married first.  If a car was in our driveway late into the night, my mom would say, "What will the neighbors think?"  I have 3 older sisters and they all had big weddings.  When it came to me, they were worn out and I think they were relieved that I did not want the standard "big" wedding.  I really did not want to go through the whole exercise - we said our vows at City Hall and went out for brunch with best friends.  I never regretted it.

Maybe you young kids, starting families so early, have the right idea - get it over with while you have the energy and stamina.

StephanieC - Forget about that book I told you about - go with your gut instinct and do what you think is right for you - (you will anyways, won't you [smile]).

Comment by StephanieC on September 7, 2011 at 2:42am

Well ladies tonight is a bummer at the moment. I had a decent night. Then i decided to go thru my nightstand. just clean it out, get rid of stuff. Well i shoulda left it alone. I found the notebook that i was
keeping a journal in while kyle was in boot. Ive been reading thru it
and its sad. It just brought back memories and all the emotions that i
was feeling during that time. Ugh why did i have to open the cover to
see what was inside? Its just a plain spiral notebook so i didnt know
what was in it. I probably have a dozen. Its just my luck to pick up the
one that i made into a journal.

 

Lovemynavyson-Congrats on being a soon to be gramma. And congrats about your daughters engagement. I cant imagine what it must be like for you right now. I know my mom would freak if i came home and told her i
was pregnant and also gettin married in the same conversation. She would
freak just because i was pregnant. My mom is the youngest of 6 and she
is proud of the fact that she is the only one who isnt a grandparent yet. And boy does she like to remind everyone, and i mean EVERYONE of that fact. I just keep telling her it will happen in time. I glad that you are being so supportive of her :) Personally i can understand not wanting to tell your parents news like that. Even if im 30 and happily married before i have a child, i think im still gonna be scared to call my mom. I wish them the best of luck and hope you keep your sanity while helping to plan this wedding. Keep us updated when you can :)

Comment by Lovemynavyson (Ship02/DIV933) on September 7, 2011 at 2:19am

Sailors wife....: ) She's my baby and I love her so much...I was so disapointed that this happened, but I care about her. How could I be angery...She needs me to love her and support her...She was terrified to tell her dad and I too....She will be 19 in Feb. and just graduated June 4th. Her fiance' turned 20 two weeks ago. We really do like him...My older daughter (23) took it really really hard, she called me at midnight the day we found out and told me she'd been crying for 5 hours...Beth did NOT want to call and tell her...but we made her call her sibling and her grandparents, we didn't want them finding out by 'rumors'..My older navy son (25) didn't believe her and she had to convince him that she really was...and my younger son (just married in July) was really disappointed rightly thinking that he and his wife should have had the first baby..But, here we are and we cant change a thing . Im just sooooooooooooooooooooooo happy that in a society where it would have been very easy for my daughter to have an abortion (and us never know) that it was not even consider by either one...I'm happy the daddy is being very responsible and stepped up...when we talked to him that night, we asked him first thing 'what's your intention' he told us that if he was man enough to make the baby, he had to be man enough to care for the baby and Beth and wanted to marry her (I found out he'd wanted to marry her from day one)! I'm about intentional....but wow.........

Im really sorry about the situation with your mom, that had to be difficult. Though it is heart breaking....I was young once too...I just didn't get pregnant was all...I'm not saying that that makes it okay, but just want to extend love, forgiveness and grace to them....Goodnight

Comment by corpsmanwifeschu on September 7, 2011 at 1:54am

Oh wow, congratulations to the soon to be grandma! I was terrified to tell my mom when I was pregnant with my daughter. Found out a week before my 19 birthday. I don't think she talked to me until I was three months along. That was very hard, living at home with someone who wouldn't even say "hi" to you as you passed each other in a hall. It was a little more entertaining (I can't think of another word) to tell her, everyone, that I was pregnant with number two...at 17 weeks along. I went from not being pregnant to four months in one Dr visit! So glad you are taking it as well as your are. You want some of my vodka?

Comment by corpsmanwifeschu on September 7, 2011 at 1:46am

Mmm...vodka.

Comment by Lovemynavyson (Ship02/DIV933) on September 7, 2011 at 1:16am

Hey navy moms.....I've been mia for quit awhile as you know. It's been a rather crazy past couple weeks....I'm just checking in, sounds like allots been going on in here!

Jess - CONGRATULATIONS (when did you set the date)?

Sharon - So glad everything turned out all okay with your trip!

I've been making LOTS of lemonade!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'll sum it up in a nutshell....My 18 year old daughter got engaged last week and is getting married Oct 8th!!!! So, wedding preparations have been keeping me busy & away...and I began my second year of on-line classes (week 3). Got soooooooooooooooo much done the past week though for the wedding--- BUT..........to top it all off --- I'm going to be a grandma.....hehehhehhehehehhe

Remember last time I was on (Jess's mom cried the entire trip home)?? Well, I have to report, I didn't shed a tear (not sure why)...my daugther did when she told us, because she didn't want to disappoint us - Well............should have thought about that beforehand....I was too numb to cry. Anyway, hoping & praying all goes well - I haven't had any time to even think about, let alone adjust that my baby is soon leaving the nest.........sigh. Haven't said that, I had a moment tonight and cried...I saw a family pict. when she was about 5 and another 12 - I'm not ready for her to go, though she won't be far - They've been looking for houses (he wants to buy).

well, I don't know when I'll be checking in again....you can check out my page to see their engagement picture...I really like him allot and he seems to be truly in love with my Beth and seems to care about her. My oldest navy son and my oldest daughter like him and think he's great (they both worked with him before)....Anyway.........

 

Comment by JessicaB-Sailor's Sweetheart<3 on September 6, 2011 at 10:35pm

SailorsWife, Have you tried hotwire? that's what i have found as the cheapest for flights and hotels for my trips. Cheap car rental too.

 

Wedding planning is pretty awesome, I am getting super excited!!!17 more days until my next weekend visit, and 39 days until I marry my sailor! Basically everyone I know that has no "military affiliation" thinks I am out of my right mind, but I know this is the right thing for us and I honestly couldn't be happier (unless I was there right now, of course). It is a little hard though making choices and wedding decisions without him, and I'm really bummed he won't see the venue until the formal wedding day in January :( I started our registry though, so that was fun. OH! and I am loading up on tacky bride stuff. My fave is my navy bride hoodie I partly created. His younger sister Alexis is my maid of honor, and she is just so excited it's hilarious. I have both dresses now, so at least that is taken care of.

 

Comment by Paula (was Capricorna) on September 6, 2011 at 10:17pm

Sharon - I absolutely love your philosophy about life, lemons and vodka.  So the trip turned out okay and the girlfriend was nice.  Good for you.  So sorry to hear TS Lee put a damper on your enjoyment of the beaches, etc.

Welcome back!!!

 

Comment by Sharon-Proud Sailor Mom on September 6, 2011 at 10:12pm

When I got divorced, I tried to tell my kids that this would be great for them - they'd get two of each holiday - it took a while for that to really catch on - but now I celebrate any time I have with my kids that is good - I told my son that anytime he was around, we'd celebrate whatever holiday he wanted to - We just got back from visiting him in Pensacola over Labor Day.  We took the new girlfriend along - needless to say, he only had eyes for her!!! lol  And with Tropical Storm Lee, we didn't even get any beach time!  But I am celebrating that I got the rare opportunity to watch my son be in the early stages of love with a lovely young lady that may someday be the mother of my grandchildren.  As I always say - when life gives you lemons - make lemonade (and, if you're old enough, add vodka!)

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