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Comment by Paula (was Capricorna) on August 25, 2011 at 5:54pm

I'm one of those non-FB people.  I understand about the "sorry for the duplicate" note.

Comment by StephanieC on August 25, 2011 at 5:47pm

Not everyone is on FB so I still check in and post when something happens. Thats why i usually post an "im sorry for the duplicate" at the top of my FB copied posts for anyone who is one fb and sees my posts there and here.

Comment by Paula (was Capricorna) on August 25, 2011 at 5:16pm

Okay.  Great!

 Not much action here anymore anyways, but it would be nice to stay in touch and share news/important events.

Comment by StephanieC on August 25, 2011 at 5:00pm

Haha, very true, i didnt think about all that. Im sure ill have time, i cant seem to pry myself away from you ladies :)

Comment by Paula (was Capricorna) on August 25, 2011 at 4:14pm

 

If you have time, let us know:

- if you get the Teller job

- how it goes with your mom

- if/when you get your own place

- updates on how Kyle is doing

See, there's lots you can report on between now and October!

 

 

Comment by StephanieC on August 25, 2011 at 3:21pm

I'll have to look for it and check it out. I know hes got a lot to go thru yet so thats why im not going to focus on anything except for getting my questions answered. Thats the purpose of our conversation in October. And i really dont blame him if "being free from responsibility to another person" is part or even all or his reason for ending things between us. But if thats the case, i wish he would have told me that.And not left things so vague and open like he did. But again, getting my questions answered is the purpose of seeing him in October, so thats what im looking forward to. This way i can put everything behind me and move on past this. I want to be his friend. I want to be able to keep in touch with him and know whats going on with him. This way when hes doing good, such as ranked 3rd in class, i can be excited for him. Or when hes not doing so good, i can be supportive and encourage him to do better. But yes, i will keep you guys updated. I dont think there will be much to report between now and October, but after our conversation in October, i will be sure to let you guys know whats up and how things go.

Comment by Paula (was Capricorna) on August 25, 2011 at 1:43pm

My sister just told me about a book entitled "Why Men Love B*tches".  It has really helped her - you might check to see if they have it at your library.  I don't approve of playing games, but sometimes it really is best to be brutal about going after what is best for you (and not pleasing him so much).  Kyle is facing a LOT of schooling to go through yet, and then he'll likely be off to "see the world".  If I were in his shoes, looking at what he has to face in the next 6 years, I'd want to be totally free from responsibility to any other human being no matter how much I loved that other person.  Another "danger" is that he is young and with the experiences he will have, he is likely to change quite a bit.  You might want to back off, stay in touch (i.e., good/supportive friend) and see what kind of man he turns out to be.

I'll say no more.

Please do keep me posted because I care.

Comment by StephanieC on August 25, 2011 at 1:11pm

Yea, my mom has already told me that the plan with me moving back is going to be very short term, as in, long enough for me to get back on my feet and get my own place. Shes hoping that i can be back out by the first of the year. But this is a very short term plan for me as well. I love my mom to death, but as i have already told yall our horror stories, i dont want to be there any longer than i have to be. As far as anything else, i dont want to think to far into the distant future. But trust me, i have thought about that possibility already. I honestly even kinda hope that maybe when we see each other in October that maybe that distant future might not be so distant, but im not dwelling on it and im not getting my hopes up for anything at all. The plan in october is to talk about his reasons for ending things and get questions answered. So thats what i am going to focus on. If anything else happens, well then so be it. But i definitely will let you know how it goes in October

Comment by Paula (was Capricorna) on August 25, 2011 at 12:37pm

Stephanie - Fingers crossed for you that you get that teller job!  That would be great - and maybe allow you to get your own apt??  Congrats to Kyle for doing so well.  I am glad that the two of you are in touch and will be able to meet face to face.  Who knows... maybe y'all can remain long-term friends. 

Perhaps, in the distant future (after he has "sowed his wild oats").... 

In the meantime, you need to take care of YOU and be happy in and with your own life.   Let me know how it turns out, please!

Comment by StephanieC on August 25, 2011 at 12:22pm

Paula-things are ok for me. Im moving back home this weekend. Prolly saturday. I've put in a bunch of apps. I even applied at a bank where my moms friend from the soccer committee told her they are hiring 12 new tellers in our area. Im really hoping that pans out well. I think i did really good on the teller simulation that they make you take with the application. Ive had a lot of experience in previous jobs handling money, and when i was 17 i was even a shift manager at my job then, so i was require to reset the til at the end of my shift and make the drop.

I still talk to Kyle a couple of times a week. He is doing well in Charleston. Told me yesterday that its a VERY close race for the top 3 spots in his class and he is ranked #3 right now, but as he put it "only by a few hundredths of a point" Im making a trip up there in october and we have talked and we are gonna see each other while i am there so we can talk and just get that real "closure" on the situation. A phone call and a few txts and some facebook IMs just leaves everything so...well i dont quite know the word im looking for. But i still have questions because some events that happened between us right before we broke up just dont make sense with his decision to do it, and i need answers. When it actually happened he left everything very open and vague. I think i deserve the answers im looking for. And he agrees. So hopefully that will go well and then i will be able to put this all behind me. I still love him very much and it still hurts alot, but everyday it gets a teeny tiny bit easier. Him being happy is really what matters to me, even if it mean that his happiness does not include me.

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