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Comment by esther22ship02div932PIR7-1 on May 30, 2011 at 12:01am

my vote is for that quote as well!!  Can't go wrong with that one.

Comment by JessicaB-Sailor's Sweetheart<3 on May 29, 2011 at 11:59pm

Looks like I'm just going to have him lay down the ground rules once liberty starts. I will just have to cross my fingers that nobody explodes... Having no options is not fun. Thanks everyone, I think you all are right and I'm best just letting him handle it and hoping for the best.

Comment by JessicaB-Sailor's Sweetheart<3 on May 29, 2011 at 11:57pm

I'm tempted to put that last quote into my next letter haha! I really don't get why his dads side dosen't like me (I get the mother not wanting "another woman" thing) He is SUPER religious.. and I'm the pastors daughter! Seems like a match made in heaven huh? *bad pun* I guess you are right, I really don't know what I can do except support him. I just want to make his PIR day perfect

Comment by MNSunshine on May 29, 2011 at 11:56pm

Jessica,

I can only speak for myself.  I wouldn't want my son's fiance setting the "rules" for the day.  I think it should be up to him.  That would definately go over much better with this mom.

Comment by JessicaB-Sailor's Sweetheart<3 on May 29, 2011 at 11:51pm

I'm all up for sharing, they aren't. I know that if he tells them at PIR it will ruin his day because a full fledged screaming match will break out and I really don't want that to happen. I'm trying to find a way to kind of take the blame so to say ahead of time so that they won't fight as much or yell at him and call him bad names on his day, which I know will happen if he brings it up then :\ I'm just like, stuck in the middle and don't know what to do.

Comment by MNSunshine on May 29, 2011 at 11:48pm

Jessica,

My SR's father and I are divorced.  We are both attending PIR.  My son is also a nuke and his fiance is planning to attend as well.  I would love to have every minute of my son's time, but realize that will not happen.  The day is his and I want him to spend it as he wants.  I want him to "run the show."  My challenge is that his father and his fiance's mother (whom I've heard plans to attend, though not on the invite list) have their opinions as well.  My son's fiance never says boo; wish she were more like you.  I think it will go best if we all take a big giant step back and let my SR take the lead.  I really don't mind sharing him with his girl, but on a day like this, I'm not looking forward to sharing him with her mom too.

I plan to relax and enjoy every minute I get.

Comment by JessicaB-Sailor's Sweetheart<3 on May 29, 2011 at 11:47pm

His mom does not like me. He does not very much like his mom (he lived with her when he was not in college though) , his dad and him don't talk much outside of court (however he still tries to get his approval, it just doesn't happen). The relationships are very rocky but it seems like since he has been gone they have forgotten all the bad things they have done. His mom ended up kicking him out for no reason and he stayed with me for a few days periodically, went back when it calmed down. Also his dad and him are in a huge college money financial court case at the moment. I'm just frustrated because I have been here the whole time and suddenly the think it is me causing the problems. We will be together two years in October<3 As for marriage, we have talked but he really wants me to finish school before we get married (we plan to in the future, it's just timing) As for the engagement, for me, sooner is better haha!

Comment by JessicaB-Sailor's Sweetheart<3 on May 29, 2011 at 11:41pm

That was my plan. However I mentioned to them us wanting a little time a while ago and well, his mom went off the edge. It's what he wants though, but I would rather they get mad at me than him because it's his big day and I just don't know how to minimize the chaos ahead of time :\

Comment by JessicaB-Sailor's Sweetheart<3 on May 29, 2011 at 11:36pm

So I have a question. Kind of a selfish one sortof.. but I need advice here. What is the best way to go about sharing the (very limited) time we get with our Sailor's after PIR? Mine is a nuke so he will only have a few hours that day, but he and I want to spend some time alone without his family to celebrate our birthdays and graduations and whatnot, however his family is completely under the impression that I'm just "going along" and it's all about them. I'm pretty worried about how this will all work out at PIR. My boyfriend said he will just tell them he wants to spend the time with me, but I know that will end in all sorts of yelling and screaming arguments and I was wondering if any of you had any suggestions on how I could handle it ahead of time and take the heat myself so he doesn't have to get yelled at by his family on his big day. I really want him to have a good day and not have any family issues that day [divorced family and both sides coming, first time together not in court for years]. Thanks(: He and I are both concerned about how to handle this.

Comment by lucyloves...herSailor! on May 29, 2011 at 11:24pm

Lala...sent you a friend request. I am interested in info about your ribbons!!!!

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