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Comment by navymom x 2 on October 1, 2010 at 12:29pm

Hey Mitch you sound just like my sons Dad..LOL. I have sheltered my son too much..he is the Baby of 3 and last to go! And yes I need that reminder that I am not doing him any favors by holding him back from becoming a man. My husband was glad to see him finally go and grow!! Just gonna take me a bit to let go..Thanks for the advice and words of wisdom.. And no I really wouldn't want to financially support him the rest of his life..lol so this is a good thing!

Comment by sandi (shp07/div357/PIR11/5) on October 1, 2010 at 12:25pm

Mitch you sound just like my husband, but he did tear up when he left us at the Cardinals game. So I know you men are tough and my son is going to do very well, I too believe it is time to be a man. But my heart is still that of a mom and I am sure your mom was a bit blue when you left home too.
Maybe we will have time to meet people at the PIR.

Comment by Lynne on October 1, 2010 at 11:58am

You know what Mitch...I think you speak like a true dad and man. Sometimes i think that this is about boot camp for moms as much as it is boot camp for sons. This is where the moms are learning to let go. There is a great blog on this site about how people let go differently. I think as the next few weeks pass you will see the mom's change...I don't know that for sure...but I'm guessing that as the phone calls and letters continue and they see their son's changing and making good decisions and becoming men that they will feel safer, more secure, and less worried. When I started this group I told every mom and wife as they joined that this was a place where they could express their feelings, scared, angry, happy, whatever it was and it would be accepted. I have encouraged them to do so. In expressing our feelings I think we are more able to look at them realistically and deal with them and move on.

As a single mom, I raised my son by myself for 16 years. My parents are both dead and I have no siblings. My son and I are all each other have. I cannot tell you how hard this is for me. However, I know that my son is doing exactly what he needs to do. I may cry some tears, and I may express my feelings on this site, but when I speak to my son I lift his spirits, I encourage him, I tell him he can do this and I don't leave any room for complaining or saying I can't. But, for me, I can't speak for anyone else here, I need a place to let go and just be so that when he is deployed, when he is away and I can't reach out to him that I have established a support system of people who understand and know how I feel and can help me continue to be strong so I can support and encourage him.

Maybe I need to cut the apron strings, maybe, but I think my son and I will be close next year as we are today. It won't matter whether we talk everyday or every month. It won't matter if he is on a ship or in Afghanistan, one thing I know I will always put him first. I am not criticizing you. Mom's and dad's think differently that is why they are both important in a child's life. Some mom's here have little difficulty with their children being away while other's have more. Every relationship between every child and their parent is unique and different. I think that is what makes every person unique and special. I am so glad you stopped and I hope you will continue to add your thoughts.

Comment by alice/S7/Div364 on October 1, 2010 at 11:29am

good morning ladies. this is my wife's thing (i just happened by one evening and seen some of the posts) so don't blame her. seems to be a lot of fretting over what training day your recruit is in. what does it matter. graduation day is still 11-5. i was in the navy and i tell you, it doesn't change much from week to week. we didnt have email and cell phones and family support group blogs. we got 3 phone calls and all usually ended with tears of mixed emotions. my concern here is what are you going to do when junior goes to A school. or on a six month deployment for that matter. i know that technology has allowed this method of dealing with separation. (med cruises would have been much easier with email). my point is not to criticize or harass but to let you know its time to start cutting those apron strings. your sailor cannot feel that his absence is a major disruption in your lives. if he knows your counting the hours till his next phone call or letter then that becomes his major focus which takes away from his ability to learn what he's there to do. its not summer camp its boot campl he's a man now. let him learn to be a man without the distraction of worrying about home. God bless you all, but chances are your not going to see a whole lot of him for at least the next 4 years. i'm more worried about some of you than him. he'll be fine. and you might even like the improvement. my name is mitch. my son is quenton in s7d364 pir11-5. i cant wait to see the man he turns out to be

Comment by Lynne on October 1, 2010 at 11:26am

I forgot to tell you al one thing...if you get phone calls in the next few days...be sure to ask them to sing you the "shark" song...I can't remember it...but it was so funny when my son sang it...I almost peed my pants...that's probably TMI but you know me!!

Comment by Lynne on October 1, 2010 at 11:15am

oh my goodness though he gets to complete boot camp..I am so happy for you iowa...what is one more week>>>

Comment by Lala Ribbon Queen PIR Ribbons on October 1, 2010 at 10:26am

blyn- I got the info for your PIR ribbon thanks :-)

Comment by navymom x 2 on October 1, 2010 at 9:44am

Keep us posted Iowa..will be thinking of you..and hang in there!

Comment by iowanavygf (s7,Div355,PIR11/5) on October 1, 2010 at 9:34am

Ok thanks, I got a call last night from him.. about half an hour, and then this morning I got another call.. he is moved to 11-12 grad date.. and ship 11 but didnt know for sure the division. he is NOT in a good mood.. idk whats going to happen. He told me to look for another call later, there will be some changes..... my nerves are fried.

Comment by navymom x 2 on October 1, 2010 at 9:29am

Iowa my son said yesterday that it was week 2 day 5 for them..hope your SR is doing better! Funny about the birthdays ..It seems like they like them in BC when it is their B-day..my sons birthday is 10/6 ..he will turn 21.. My son in-law had a b-day in BC and so did another close friend of family when he was in bc. The friend of family mom sent her son confetti in a card...needless to say he got into some trouble on that one..had to pick up all by licking his finger and one by one...that was about 8 years ago and he still laughs about it and will always remember his 18th b-day.

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