Ship OFF

[silva4navy]

I'm Shipping off June 27th ! ... I am trying to have my 11 General Orders memorized & chain of command as well as my running down packed before ship off but all I have memorized are my sailors creed, chain of command from E7 down to E1 can anyone give me any sudgestions ..I am getting more and more nervous ... also on another note If their are any navy moms could you give me some advice as to how you dealt with being away from your child !!! thank you in advance...

[Angie]

I said that 'cause the picture you had up before was of you and a child. I have had to be the one to get people seperated for having thier child living in a car, while the single parent came to work.  Having heard so many stories from people who where "told" by their recruiter they could get thier child back after all the training, and having to explain to them, and show the instruction that they couldn't, having them go off on me (umm I am a retired Chief, not a  good thing to do, go off on the Chief) and once they calm down having to help them do everything to get them seperated from the Navy as they didn't want to not live with out their child (which I don't blame them).

 

THAT is why I brought up what I did.   Recommend you not get upset over something someone puts on the computer, you don't know the tone in what they are posting.  And if the computer upsets you...you might have issues in bootcamp as people will be in your face screaming at you and using everything possible to get you upset

[silva4navy]

Dear, Ms. Angie 

I apologize for misunderstanding you .

I became defensive because ... I was tired of people assuming that my wanting a career for myself and not riding in my husband tail coat instantly meant.. I was one a single mom or about to get a divorce .

my husband and I have known each other since we were in our preteens and were both from 3rd world countries ..we both felt that serving in the military would give us a good foundation in our family and careers because the military can pay for our collages and also provide us on the job training in a high stressed environment ....he is about to ETS this december and now Its my turn since he has already serve 6 years .

He has now found a contractor job that will allow us to save money for our future home and our son collage fund ... I feel that it is my turn to make a name for myself in my career and the military has always been my first choice. I am an independent self reliant kind of woman who has a plan and will do my best to achieve my goals ..... but I still feel bad not being able to  see my son for some time while I'm in basic and when I deploy ...I was asking for some support and Ideas as to how to deal with the distance !! if I am making any sense 

again I apologize for misunderstanding your advice and help ...again thank you 

[BunkerQB]

To me, it sounds like you two have it together. You have each the support of each other. If you have family nearby that would be a bonus. You needn't over think (over stress) about the future. Enjoy each moment w your husband and son. Yes, you want to plan things out. You want to be disciplined. I find people who "overdo it" are boring and make for a boring relationship. Make sure you and your husband have fun and reward yourself with one or two luxury items (or vacations) just for the two of you. With skype, email, txt, cell phone - you time apart will be manageable. You son will be fine - as long as one of you is there for him. If you feel sorry for yourself - he will pick up on that too.

[BunkerQB]

silva, we are glad to hear that you have a partner to share the child rearing responsibilities. We have many single parents (in and out of the Navy) who are working hard and making sacrifices to be good parents. Unfortunately, in order for a single parent to be accepted into military service, the person can't have primary custody of the child (or children). Many don't ask the recruiters about this issue. Many recruits don't know the details. Often, the facts are not what we want to hear.  It's a lot (and I mean a lot) more difficult to join the Navy these days.  We don't need to belabor this point. The result is that many qualified candidates are turned away. Many recruits at bootcamp are separated.

To others out there: It important for our younger generation to remember that "not getting into" the Navy, the Marines, "not being accepted" into a college or into a firefighter program/paramedic program does NOT mean the person is a failure or less of a person. It simply means someone else is MORE qualified.  If you find yourself in that situation. Take a deep breath, look around, assess your strengths and weeknesses. Start again. Don't give up. As a country we still have more opportunities than any other. You can almost always sign up for a community college. One step at a time. Keep going forward. It will be worth it. Keep your faith in yourself.