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Comment by ktssong on August 10, 2012 at 1:38am

We have heard that from my son and a doctor has checked him and they have talked to  him and he is doing better.  The doctor on the main base there reported to him that it's nothing to worry about so a sigh of relief that it doesn't seem to be out of hand and they are caring for him.  He told me he wouldn't fit any of his regular clothing anymore because he's lost so much weight in his waist and legs.  I'm glad he mentioned it so I didn't get shocked when I see him.  I'm prepared that we may see a weary son.  I just teared up writing this but I'm very thankful for all your posts and notes to me and being here for us.  We are in the homestretch and not a minute too soon.  Malamama I emailed the Ombudsman to see if there is a date and she is very very helpful...they said they try to give us info as fast as they get it and also to call the care line because they will give flight info 24 hours ahead.  Not sure if that helps much...

DWG welcome to the group....My son is in the Navy Seabees...he's a mechanic however, since he's been there he says he has been so many other things too. 

I think my mom instincts were right on target when about a month ago I started hearing in my sons notes he was tired...then he said he hated the desert and he never says hate and never says he's tired and every note said it so I started feeling he was weary....I cannot be thankful enough that he talked to someone and told them and so thankful they are listening and here are the tears again...I know they have the best out there and that makes me feel so much better...He said he can't wait to see water and just lay next to it...it's sad to think about but also makes me smile thinking about him just hanging out next to water..  Tomorrow I am picking up packing tape and starting to pack up his clothes and all their wedding gifts and getting things ready to keep me busy...TDM, I took the dog a walk and I went through a pile of mail I've been putting off and I went and watched my grandkids play football and play with my newest granddaughter...so trying to stay positive so I am strong for him when he gets back..  This  might be early to be saying but I'm thinking this is going to be a fantastic holiday season, the best gift all year to have my son back in the states and a deployment behind us...Time to focus on rest and refreshing body mind and soul.  Thanks all......like I say to him, I say to you here's a HHHUUUUUGGG.

Comment by TexasDocMom on August 9, 2012 at 10:09am

MalaMama...I know once my son's unit left Iraq to do the stuff your son is doing, they were home relatively quickly. It just seems like forever!  We chose to have him fly home as well after homecoming at Camp Lajuene, too many of us wanted to see him, and like you, taking time off when you don't know really WHEN to do it is hard. One mom went and spent 3 days there before the arrival of the 2/2.  We had a family coordinator that started updating us with emails, and on the final two days, we'd get updating phone calls. I'd vote for bringing him HOME to his own house, family, bed, privacy in his room (that's a BIG deal!), and good food....plus you'll have time to observe him a bit, and maybe not have the anxiety of those who can't do that.

Comment by D~W~G on August 8, 2012 at 1:17pm

Prayers to those Corpsmen and Seabee Moms <3 And other as well of course :) 

Comment by TexasDocMom on August 8, 2012 at 12:52pm

The majority of us are Navy moms, but we have (and welcome) moms, dads, spouses from all the branches to this group. Navy moms are mostly corpsmen or seabee moms. We have moms with mulitple kids in multiple branches of the military...

Comment by D~W~G on August 8, 2012 at 12:35pm

What branch are many of your military sons and daughter with? Thanks for the welcome and advice :) 

Comment by Much Trouble on August 8, 2012 at 12:06pm

Ktssong...I missed your post also.  TRY to relax...I'm not sure why they are moving him around, but they are on the spot and doing what they think is best for him!  Take courage from that!  The hardest thing is getting the kids to say there is a problem and then getting someone to really listen.  Your son is getting the attention and help he needs.  Be supportive when he calls, but don't worry.  Keep working with your daughter-in- law.  Maybe one or both of your could get some counseling...your doctor can write you a referral and with most HMOs it is very affordable.  You can also check with Vet groups in your area.  (I know the Vietnam Vets are very active with PTSD.)Your son needs the two women he loves most to be strong when he gets home.  You have my prayers...and keep talking to us.  (BTW...If it would help your DIL, have her come here and talk, also)

Comment by TexasDocMom on August 8, 2012 at 11:27am

Ktssong...I don't know how I missed your post. I can see why you would be concerned about him being pulled from patrol, but the up news on that is that he's safe in the wire than out, so there's that.  I would hope that the military is just paying closer attention and working to keep PTSD at a lower level...possibly your son had a panic attack witnessed by others, possibly he over reacted to something they thought he shouldn't...or possibly he just simply told them he had to get out of there. In other words we don't know, and he is physically safer now than out on patrol. We have to hold on to what we can get...and in the wire, he will probably have more opportunity to communicate with you and/or his wife.  Stay busy, walk that dog....paint that damn room I keep chattering about....dig that garden...and let us know when you hear from him!

Comment by TexasDocMom on August 8, 2012 at 10:47am

Welcome, DWG , to the group no one wants to join, but never seems to leave once we do...there are amazing women and a few dads who keep in touch here to make sure there is always someone "home" to talk to. We've all been in your shoes, and many here have kids in war zones right now. We have moms with 2 or 3 kids deployed at once (thank God the Iraq war zone has calmed down,that is happening less now).

Here on this group, we do follow OPSEC regulations. We do not mention exact times for arrivals/departures of military units, exact locations, names of those deployed etc. We also encourage that no first hand accounts of bombings, etc be shared on this board. Remember that when your child tells you something, he/she is sharing that with his/her mom/dad and not with an online group that can be read by anyone dropping by. We do not want any parent to learn about any instances of injury here on our board before the DoD has notified them.

That said, we know how frightening it is to hear about things on the news or via rumor. You need to remember that the next of kin of anyone injured or killed in Afghanistan will be notified before any one else, and notified quickly. It's hard to not worry all the time, I know this...but do not start building each instance you hear about up in your head. There is plenty of worrying to do, we'll help you do it, don't put  yourself through any more than you need to. Take care of you, eat right, try to sleep at night, talk to your doctor if  you need help with sleeping or anxiety. Walk the dog, hit the gym, paint a bedroom or 3, dig a garden...and keep that list by the phone of things your son would like to know about when he calls...the scores of the football games, the dog's antics, the next door neighbor's gossip...home stuff. You are home, stay healthy there, and that's what he wants when he comes home and when he calls. Remember to come here...you are not alone. Remember that...you are not alone.

Comment by Much Trouble on August 8, 2012 at 9:47am

Hi D~W~G...Welcome to the group.  This is one place where you will find folks know EXACTLY what you are talking about.  We can't "imagine" your feelings...we  live with them.  I think it is up to each Mom to decide whether or not to listen to the news.  For the most part, I followed it, but there would be times when enough was enough and I had to back away a bit.  BTW..I found the RSS section right above these comments to be a very good source.

As far as being "strong" goes...We get our strength from each other.  I hope I've been able to pass on courage and strength to others, but I KNOW I have had my share of meltdowns and turned to this group to prop me back up again.  Keep coming back...It DOES get better!

Comment by D~W~G on August 8, 2012 at 9:09am

Hi, I am new here, have had Sailor away in this area of the world deployed for 9 months and he is getting ready to go again. It is very nerve racking !  We are told not to watch the news, not to gossip or talk of things we do not know - rumors. You all seem like a very great group of strong ladies :) Has anyone heard about an Army Base Bombing In Afghanistan? Hate to ask the question so bluntly ?  It is not in the news yet . It seems the longer you are a military mom the more military mom friends you obviously make and it makes you worry so much more. While I pray constantly for all of them- even those I do not know,  I have more people, who are closer to truly pray for. I have several Air force and Soldier friends over there right now as we all probably do and avoiding worry is so hard :( 

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