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Comment by TexasDocMom on July 27, 2012 at 8:29am

ktssong, anything can change. My son ended up NOT deploying to A after his Iraq deployment because, bless his little heart, he put off signing his enlistment papers, he kept thinking he had time to do it....He was offered to lead the corpsmen there, but all of a sudden on March 1, he called frantic, because of his procrastination they had transferred him !! Of course, for once, I was delighted that he procrastinated, but he was so pissed off. So he hurried up to reenlist, but too bad, his career path had changed. He went to Nevada for a while, then was working in the methadone clinic at Camp Lajuene ( a real education!) and ended up as an instructor for the last two years of his enlistment. It can change. The Navy may have a career path for your son, you just don't know.

Comment by ktssong on July 27, 2012 at 2:06am

Ok.  I 've caught up on all the posts and feel so refreshed after I read because I don't feel alone.  Anxieties seem to melt on here.  Peace starts to shower over me... I can't say enough about Navyformoms...I really enjoyed the story about your son smiling again TexasDOcMom.  My oldest son was concerned about those smiles of his baby brother too so he is, along with me hoping that after deployment his smile will return...We don't know that it has left but we will be watching closely to make sure he's ok.  So, I've heard several talk about second and third deployements....and my son is under the impression that he won't go back to the desert again, that he will go somewhere different everytime.  Again we are new to this...is it possible he would return on the next deployment to the same place?  That could be discouraging..But I'm not going to worry about future ones already, but I have a feeling when he gets home they tell them sometime between then and 8 months where he's going next. 

Comment by ktssong on July 26, 2012 at 1:59pm

Texas Doc Mom thank you for the link on "ditymove"  I'm sure that is it I'm reading it tonight.  I have to laugh at myself and my daughter in law...sometimes the new lingo we are getting used to doesn't come through clearly.  We thought giddy, I'm sure it is dity...

Also thanks to all for the PTSD info.....we are preparing for homecoming....it's keeping our heads in a good place even though it's still sometime off.  But closer. 

Angel, welcome to th group....there is always something on here to help you be constructive with your time....Like I love your idea of putting the post it's on your items with where you thought of him...I will probably use that sometime...I put a letter in my boxes and told him about some of the items but many times I was like you, in an aisle and would see something and go this is for my son.  I gotta get it.  So you are doing good.  Keep coming back

Comment by Much Trouble on July 26, 2012 at 7:48am

Angel...I think you've GOT it!  Stuff like like will help you stay in control of those horrible feelings of helplessness.  Let those blue eyes roll...I hope that in a short time his whole group will gather around as he opens a box and they can all roll their eyes. Yes...You belong here!  Maybe you can get comfort at times, but I also see you GIVING comfort to other Moms.

Comment by Much Trouble on July 25, 2012 at 9:01pm

It is so good to hear from you again, Chief!  Yes...You will forever be the "jerky" lady...I think you supplied all the military population over there.  Thirty years from now, a bunch of little kids will hear Granddads war stories about a nice lady that kept making and sending jerky.  How wonderful...The guys seemed to really like it and it helped you stay in control!

Comment by TexasDocMom on July 25, 2012 at 8:26am

Welcome, Angel....these ladies are exactly the ones to turn to, they know your emotions way too well.  You're going to have many ups and downs, and we will walk and hug you through all of them. Remember to make a list of topics to talk about on the phone, things like football scores, the dog's antics, who had a baby, the neighborhood gossip, so that your mind has something to focus on when you hear his voice. He will want to know about home. 

And as your friends send their kids off to college and say things like "I know just how you feel, my daughter left for college"...don't hurt them. Do not pick up any heavy objects and brain them with it. They really do not get it, and deep down, as hurtful as their remarks seem, they think they're being helpful. And really, deep down, we don't want anyone else to feel this fear.  Come here, we already know. You are not alone. 

Comment by DJones on July 25, 2012 at 7:30am

Angel....I just want to reach out and give you a hug.  I wish none of us had to be here.  Stay positive, BUSY and send lots of care packages.  Maybe keep a diary of your thoughts.  Stay on this site and release your emotions on us.  WE ALL know what your feeling and how much your emotions will change.  Never hold back a tear.  We are here for you ANYTIME.  

Comment by Much Trouble on July 25, 2012 at 7:14am

Angel...Welcome to the group and fasten your seatbelt...you are going for a ride like no other!  I did the same thing...The whole time my son was getting ready, I ignored my fears then the day came that he left, and I felt my stomach fill up with rocks and my heart move up into my throat.  I was raised as a military brat...two of his older sisters were in another branch of service, and I thought it was wonderful when he joined the Navy.  Not only that, but Afghanistan was his 4th deployment...I'm used to that stuff...right?  WRONG! He had never been anywhere the people wanted him dead! 

Your son is in an elite group...that means he has had elite training.  The best thing is if you can think of that great group and how "professional" they all are.  Do NOT think about the baby you held in your arms, or the little toddler in his footie pajamas, throwing his arms around your neck.  That may be part of your son, but only to you.  Now, he is a grown man out to do a man's job.

Stay here with us, Angel...it is the one place you can come to laugh or cry, and we WILL understand.  In fact, we will hold your hand, give you lots of hugs, and laugh and cry with you.  The other ladies will be here soon...they have great ideas about how to survive this deployment.  But the first thing you can do is find an empty box and put it on your dining room table.  It, or another like it, will there the whole time he is gone, while you collect all kinds of goodies to send to him.  It really helps, because it let's you do something positive. 

I hope to see a lot of you, Angel...think of this place as your sanctuary.

Comment by Kym Ship 11 Div 118 on July 25, 2012 at 7:00am

I am glad you are here. I think your words and feeling are true for all here. Nice to meet you.

Comment by Debby on July 24, 2012 at 10:35pm

OH and about the furniture moving.. When my son left he was stationed in VA Bch.. he had to pay upfront for his moving expenses but turned in the receipts and was reimbursed with in a couple weeks.. They will be given all that information when they start the process of separation..

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