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Comment by Paymaster on April 21, 2012 at 10:36am

ktssong....Our children have one trait in common, they love doing their jobs and are most happy when they are the real situations.  They have that "A" type of personelilty.  They thrieve on the challenges!

 

You are in a good place and enjoy it. 

 

I am just thrilled that I will get to see my son next month!!!  Can't wait.  Its been 15 months since I last set eyes on him. 

Comment by ktssong on April 21, 2012 at 10:25am

I have been experiencing a very strange emotional place lately.   I feel calm and well just ok that my son and his battallion seem to be doing great.  Either my son is a good actor or he really is enjoying this.  Even though he is back on main base, he loved going so much off it and doing the project they were doing that he wants to go again.  I think this is helping him do what he signed up to do.  He really sounded good on the phone and I guess that peace in his voice has gotten me to where I am right now. 

I love coming here all week long, I too don't have much support from family in the way of them asking me about my son.  At the same time I might have contributed to that because I've been the family connector and sent quite a bit of info to keep them posted so I've backed off and low and behold my daughter brought her brothers name up and told me she was online at same time as him and they got to chat.  So I'm learning to let them bring it up and let them ask and not be too hard on them about not talking to me too much....maybe they feel they are  helping me through it by distracting me with other things.  Even though I do have many distractions, nothing keeps him off my mind.  It is all day.  I saw a strange  cloud last night after my late shift and so I went to see why it was so low to the ground and when I got to where I could see it I was at a park that had the American flag flying with a light focusing on it and it was at the memorial for soldiers.  It made me think of him and say a prayer.  It was beautiful but I wondered if God needed me to pray right then and led me there so I did.

Our FRG  made T-Shirts that  say "we love our Seabees" and I can't wait to get itl  My sons wife, my new daughter in law, started coming to my Zumba class with me.  We talk about homecoming and how we plan to try to coordinate  our arrival close to theirs.  So we help each other. 

Comment by Much Trouble on April 19, 2012 at 5:09pm

• Mama bear...The "sandbox" refers to the war zone in the Middle East...especially countries such as Iraq and Afghanistan.  If your daughter is there, you NEED to be here.  This is a wonderful group that will help you deal with the worry and anxiety, and it also helps you reach out to help her through her experience.  If nights are the worst time for you, get on here at night!  When there is little activity scroll back and read how other Moms fell apart...and got themselves put together again.  Also...Just because it is "quiet", don't feel no one is here!  Trust me...I would come here during a "quiet" time...post something...and often had a reply by the time I came back from the bathroom. 

Comment by mama bear on April 19, 2012 at 4:30pm

Hi, I haven,t been on for awile either but I forget what is the sandbox, I think my daughter might be in one now to.  I have been having melt downs too.  It's the hardest on me when I turn on the tv or radio and all you hear is about the fighting and tension in all these countries.  I am going through some heavy projects myself with health reasons.  i don't want to keep anything from her but I don't want her to lose forcus on what she is doing to she doesn't create problem for herself or others.  It's so hard , I hate nights because I am alone and I miss her so much.  The stress is taking a tow on me, now they want me to have surgery for weight loss, and this scares me something terrible.  I have only the people I meet along the way for support but I can't reach out and touch them usually when I need a hug. Military life is hard for all!  It's hard for me to accept that our loved ones are fighting or putting themselves in danger to help keep peace and us safe at home.  They need so much more than I think we can give them.  Saying thank you is just alittle thing, and giving them a pat on the back isn't much better but there isn't much else I can think to do!  so with that said I will keep praying for our loved ones no matter where they are or where they are going, for we are all in this together.  Hopefully I get through this day without another meltdown!

 

Comment by TexasDocMom on April 19, 2012 at 12:24am

Sleep well, Malamama....it's great when you communicate and can relax. My meltdown was over Bacon....

Comment by TexasDocMom on April 18, 2012 at 8:08am

Check the web site for your son's unit, they'll have phone numbers and email addresses there...if not the ombudsman listed, there should be a Family Readiness Officer...? I think that's what they were called when my son went. We had a volunteer parent connection person when he was in Iraq.

Comment by TexasDocMom on April 17, 2012 at 9:58pm

That is so funny about the guitar!! good for him for making sure there is music in Afghanistan......

You will know a general time of departure, and then you will be notified of the exact time by phone and email. Your son will probably give you the general time, the omsbudsman will do the rest. You will know!

Comment by ktssong on April 17, 2012 at 9:19pm

I got my second phone call from my son now that he is back to the main base.  He told me something funny.  After I the worrying I did to get him a guitar over there and it finally got there, he had to leave to go off the main base and when he did a guy asked if he could use his guitar while he was gone and instead of just letting him use it he sold him it for $20 and went and bought a pizza before he left.  I'm glad he couldn't see the expression on my face.  Oh well.  His good guitar is here stateside so he has one still.  Hey, they are making a go of it and making the best of it and helping each other out.  That's what matters is teamwork.  When we ask what he wants  he says fruit roll ups and flavored chapsticks.  He said they use the chapstick all day long.  Anyway.  He is safe and I've heard from him.

I plan on going to his homecoming from deployment.  I hope they tell me in time for me to get there.  I don't know how they do that.  I'm anxious about that.  I do get alot of emails from the Ombudsman and Frg so I hope that happens as we near that time.  Does anyone know from experience how families are informed that are in another state so we can be there with security involved I'm nervous about how I get the information.

Comment by Paymaster on April 16, 2012 at 8:46am

Like TexasDoc mine is currently state side.  But I am sure that will change come this summer.  We have had 3 deployments to the sand box.  Each one had its special challenges. 

 

I too have never been at any of my son's homecoming as we are on opposite coast. 

 

Doc you are right there is nothing like opening up your e-mail and finding that beloved picture.  Oh how we lavish our attention on that new picture!

 

Just thought I'd say hello, I am always here, just don't always have something to share. 

Comment by TexasDocMom on April 16, 2012 at 8:33am

I couldn't make my son's homecoming, DJones...before he left, he made it clear we were not to spend the money to do it. But I think he would have liked it after his experiences in Iraq. But...there was one Navy mom who was there to greet her son, and found mine and took a great photo of him. Even tho I had spoken with him on the phone a couple of times the second he hit the USA, when I opened that email at 6am the next morning and saw that smile and those eyes, I cried...for the whole day. That photo is on the bookcase with all the other VERY IMPORTANT ones, it's the day I could breathe again. And it was wonderful having family and friends gather to drive out to the airport here to greet my son a couple of weeks later when he came home to Austin, hold that banner high and shout his name....so we got a homecoming. They all count, he's counting the days too, just like you! Good luck with the CNA class and the job hunt!

It has gotton quiet here, maybe another group has formed. That happened with other groups on N4M, but this one will always be here, as long as this horrific war zone is active. I hope it means all are doing well...!

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