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Comment by TexasDocMom on January 4, 2012 at 2:06pm

Mom2nw! welcome! and please listen to MT, come here when you need to vent or share....just all we ask of new moms/dads is that no one shares information that your Bee or deployed family member might say in letters or phone calls, other than generic stuff. We do not want any mom or dad reading here about injuries or experiences that have not been released by the DOD.

Please share our information with your Seabee group and let them know we would love to to listen to them as well. My son is a FMF corpsman, now an instructor, and actually, now leaving the Navy on Jan 9th after 8 years in. He deployed to Iraq in 08 and that's how I found this group.I'll be sticking around this group for a while longer as admin, and even when I pass that torch, I'll still be a member. Once a Navy mom, always a Navy mom.

One of the good points made today is about those well meaning friends and family and their comments. I have one friend who told me my son had better odds at getting hit by a car than injured in a war zone. They really do not know about fear. And really, I don't want any parent to feel that fear, but geez...get a grip! A hug will do, no stupid comments, please!

Comment by Much Trouble on January 4, 2012 at 10:16am

Hi mom2nw!  What we said to Malamama applies to you, also.  I swear this group saved whatever sanity I may have had.  Welcome, and jump in.  This is the place where you can stop being "brave" and say what you really feel.  You may not believe this, but in a very short time you may be reaching out to another terrified mom, offering love and support.  We are all in this together!

Comment by Much Trouble on January 4, 2012 at 10:03am

MalaMama, TDM said it so well, and I can feel you taking a deep breath and your shoulders relaxing a bit.  The thing is, every one of us has felt exactly the way you feel.  I would be more worried if you treated this as just another assignment.  Don't keep things bottled up...come here and talk to us.  This is a "safe place" for you.  We will never tell you that he is fine and you are being silly to worry...or that things aren't so bad over there now.  That is just a crock of poop you might hear from idiots that haven't a clue.  (They ARE actually trying to make you feel better, so try to forgive them.)  This group is the BEST!  My son has been home for over a year, and while I don't post my daily doings anymore, I am here ASAP to talk to that Mom who just felt her heart drop to her stomach.  You WILL be okay...one day (or one hour) at a time.  When you have time, scroll back through all this and read how others have coped.  Laugh with us and, yes, tear up a bit as you read someone else expressing YOUR thoughts and feelings..  People in the service, especially in war zones, can form bonds that last a lifetime.  This is OUR war zone, and it is the same type of bond we have.  You WILL get through this, and we will be walking beside you all the way!

Comment by mom2nw on January 4, 2012 at 10:03am

TexasDocMom, thank you for the kind words of wisdom...I'm new, too, I followed Malamama here from the Seabee group.  My son is heading out on his first deployment and I'm so glad I found this group

Comment by TexasDocMom on January 4, 2012 at 9:31am

Malamama, I hope you had a great holiday with your son, and I'm thankful that he was able to come home to be with you before he deploys.

First of all, let me welcome you to the group that no one ever wants to join, but never seems to leave once we're here. And let me reassure you that your fears, thoughts and tears are normal. Your son will be in a war zone...and it's a dangerous place. We do have to remember that he is very well trained, those serving with him are very well trained, and their focus is taking care of one another and their commanders focus is bringing each one of them home safe and sound to their families. I know it's hard to think of our kids as military professionals, but that's what they are...with us they are still our kids, still the ones we cook for, making those favorite dishes, etc...but to those with whom they serve, they are the ones that are counted on to do the job.

There will be lots of people by there later this morning, with all kinds of good advice, and so many words of support and sharing. I'll start with reminding you to take care of you. Stay busy, clean the house, paint a bedroom, walk the dogs, join a gym, concentrate on sending packages to your son and his unit, go to school, do what ever you can do to keep your hands and brain busy, and it helps. It also gives you some great topics to discuss with your son when he calls, and he'll hear his mom's voice without so much fear in it. That helps him do his job, stay focused....not worrying about home, but just knowing you are there waiting and doing things that you love....Put a list on the table, jot down every topic you can think of...the stories your neighbors tell, the things the dog did, the scores of his favorite teams....so you don't forget when that phone rings and instead start crying. Because you will cry....sweetie, when you have a kid deployed, you cry all the damn time....you'll hear stories here....if you have younger kids and crying frightens them, cry in the shower. It just helps. Then, dry your eyes, wash your face and get on with the day...

You are not alone. Just remember, you are not alone. and again, welcome.

Comment by TexasDocMom on December 31, 2011 at 9:20am

lynda!! good for you and all those families of that Army unit waiting at home, pass those Navy mom hugs out liberally...

Happy New Year to all...and prayers for peace around this world, so we have our military home near family and loved ones as they defend and serve our country.

Comment by TexasDocMom on December 24, 2011 at 11:09am

Cancer the crab, thank you for that photo!! Yes, I know the Navy has a lot of facebook and other social media pages, but they are always overhauling their OPSEC for social media. It's an on going fight. We do err on the side of caution, but we started this group before facebook took off, and we hold to OPSEC here. One reason is simply to make each person aware of what they post, our concern is that a parent might share something told to them in confidence by a son or daughter in a war zone, and that that information should not be shared in a public arena. So, we stay on it. There's lots of information out there, but hopefully there will not be anything classifed released on this board.

Lyndan! oh, man I know how excited you are! let us know the second he hits boots down USA!! we love news like that!!

Hope you all are going to have family and loved ones close by this holiday weekend, and know that you are all in our prayers for that phone call or skype call every single prayer from this household.

My last Christmas as an active Navy mom....I guess. I've always been a Navy brat, don't know if it goes away.

Comment by TexasDocMom on December 24, 2011 at 11:02am

Comment by Paymaster on December 21, 2011 at 4:34pm

lynda n....Congrats to your son!

Comment by TexasDocMom on December 20, 2011 at 10:12am

Cancer(theCrab)!! what a great photo! and the pin is great too!! but that great photo, what a Christmas treat!!! Make a copy, put a hole in it and tie to the tree or garland!! send him a photo of that!!!

ktssong, Susan has given good advice. Prayer, staying busy and taking care of yourself. We'll give you the same advice we always give...make that list of topics to talk about on the phone so you don't turn into a gibbering mess of tears when you hear his voice and he gets to hear about home, his dog, the neighbors, the weather at home, green grass....all those things that matter to him. If you go to a gym, go often, meet other folks. The older women at my all women gym just were the best support....most had been through the Viet Nam war, the Gulf War, and WWII (one 96 year old in my water aerobics class!). That support was critical to me.

And you have to remember, your son is well trained. The men and women around him are well trained. Their commanders are focused on bringing each and every one of them home, safe and sound. When that young Marine that had been injured in A, came to Austin to spend that time with my son here at the house, I was so impressed with his stature, his confidence, his focus on getting back with 2/2 to continue his job. And I remember thinking that if I had met some of those young men with whom my son served before he deployed to Iraq with them, I would have had a tad less worry. Okay, we know I would have just added a little worry for those guys, too...but still, it's a good thought to know my son is a military professional and serves with others who are exactly the same. So is yours.

And at some point, after this war is an experience behind them, and they are home, focused on their lives and moving forward, you're going to still be so proud of the men and women they have become as they move forward in their lives. Until that day, we are right here, you are not alone.

I pray each day for you, your children and all of our warriors serving around this world, be it in the warzones, or on bases, or on ships....safe, doing their jobs and calling their moms and dads. God bless SKYPE!!!!!

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