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Comment by Donna-Amanda's mom on August 8, 2011 at 4:56pm

Iris, I am so sorry she went back to him. I am so proud of the way you handled it in telling her exactly how you feel about it but that you would support her. Hopefully she will really think about all you said to her and realize what is happening. I feel you were right on just laying it on the table for her instead of pretending. That could have worse consequences. She is very smart and hopefully figure this out and see him for what he is.

Comment by iris - Wahiawa, Hawaii on August 8, 2011 at 4:34pm

Oh give me strength. She's back with him. AAaaahhhhhh..... Apparently when he "couldn't support her" it was cause he thought she had just cheated on him instead of was taken advantage of. Again, HYPOCRITE!!! I told her exactly what I thought of him and said I would support HER as best I could, but he wasn't good for her. I pointed out that bad things have been happening ever since she started hanging out with this guy and for all his love, support, and sweetness, he was a really a selfish, irresponsible child. Just like my ex-husband, her biological father. I also mentioned that I thought she was becoming a really good enabler and that if she really thought things through and took a moment to how she reacted to when he said they were through (she was mad, not sad) that would tell her a lot. I also cancelled skyping with him and said that her dad and brother would not be meeting him in Hawaii. I would for her sake, meet him alone with her separately. I would be pleasant and try my best to see the good that she sees in him. I also told her I loved her, but I would always tell her the truth. She seemed okay, so I don't know if that was helpful or not, but at least she knows how we are feeling here. Sigh!!! It was A LOT easier when they were little. =)

Comment by Donna-Amanda's mom on August 7, 2011 at 9:01pm

Iris- So did they really break up then? He really didn't deserve her or anybody else for sure. Keep us updated on this. Glad she has her best friend coming in. Maybe she will see right through him also and let her know she made the right decision or needs to make the decision.

 

WOO HOO!!! If I just heard right, my daughter is now a Shellback.I hear it is going on right now. She better be participating in it.

AJ- Thunder and lightening. I love thunder and lightening nights. Not that we get them here very often but I remember them growing up. They are nights I get my best sleep.

Everyone must be having a great weekend cause this site is never this slow. I was beginning to feel abandoned. lol

Comment by nicole~a sailors girl(: on August 7, 2011 at 8:33pm

Ice cream has seriously become my best friend, as soon as gaige's airplane taxied out of sight i went and got ice cream. no joke!

Comment by iris - Wahiawa, Hawaii on August 7, 2011 at 8:10pm

Okay I know I shouldn't be happy, but the asshole couldn't handle it and Haley is single. Sigh of relief.

 

Mrs. B - Thanks. I had a very brief call from her and she said she's okay. I know when we skype later tonight that the tears will fall and I will be sensitive cause she cared for the jerk, even though he didn't deserve her. Hopefully she will have learned something out of all this. Her best friend arrives on Wednesday so that will be really good. I appreciate all the prayers and thoughts. =)

 

Nicole - Yeah, a mess! After some tears, ice cream, heart ache, and rage, maybe she can move on. =)

Comment by nicole~a sailors girl(: on August 7, 2011 at 6:59pm

mrs.b- ehh. she said she would "consider" going down for thanksgiving, so hopefully that means yes.

Comment by Mrs.B_Div 302_Ship9 on August 7, 2011 at 6:21pm

Iris! that's horrible! I'm so sorry... I'll send a little prayer up for her while she goes through this.

 

(((Hugs)))

 

Nicole, how are things going with your grandma now?

Comment by nicole~a sailors girl(: on August 7, 2011 at 12:51pm

WOW Iris. That is quite the mess. I don't even know where to begin with that one, aside of hoping she uses her head over heart in this case, because we all know she is smart and will figure it all out, and everything will be back to normal.:)

Comment by iris - Wahiawa, Hawaii on August 7, 2011 at 12:34pm

Nicole - So sorry you and your Grandma are still butting heads. Hang in there. You know she loves you and in her way, means well. I think some things are just difficult for the older generation to wrap their brain around. Take some big cleansing breath's and try to make the best of it. Sorry I can't offer you any better advise. Hugs to you sweetie.

 

Comment by iris - Wahiawa, Hawaii on August 7, 2011 at 12:32pm

Morning Ladies.

I got a 5:30 am call today (2:30 am her time) from Haley. Shit is hitting the fan. She's alright physically, but well....emotionally, she's a mess. I'll start at the beginning. Big surprise, alcohol was involved. Her, Fred and some friends were drinking. After a while Haley & Fred went back to his room to crash for the night. Apparently they had an argument and he went back to the smoke shack to have a smoke. A while later, Haley said she thought he came back in. One thing led to another and they "made up". When she woke up a while later, it wasn't Fred but their friend Jew (I know, not pc, but I don't know his real name, just what they all call him). Haley went back to her room and called me. She hadn't seen Fred yet and thought he might of passed out at the smoke shack. But she was upset. I'll just say right up front, I'm thinking that this was an easy out for Haley. Fred had said when he had cheated that he didn't think he could forgive her if she did the same thing. Yeah, hippocrit! Anyhow, I know she has been worried that he'd cheat again, especially on his Las Vegas trip scheduled for later in September. I think her subconscious/survival instinct kicked in and said, get out before you get in any deeper because this guy is gonna break your heart. This was the easiest way since she has developed feeling for him. That said, I could be way off base, but I certainly don't buy the "I was drunk and didn't know what I was doing". I don't think booze is any stronger now than it was in my day and I've been plenty tanked. I still knew who I was shagging. I told her to let everyone sleep it off and then she needed to talk to both of them. Apparently Jew said something about Fred not deserving her. Maybe he knows something that she needs to know. I expect it will be a real mess. Fred will play the hurt boyfriend and betrayed friend even though he really doesn't have a pot to piss in. Haley will feel horrible cause this isn't her normal behavior. Hopefully Jew won't get the shit kicked out of him by Fred. By the way, Jews room is just a few doors down from Freds. Needless to say I bet you I don't skype with Fred today at 1700. Lol... I'm sure I'll be hearing from Haley later and will fill you in. As the Navy Turns. Good grief! Hope you are all having a good weekend. RSL & Hugs!

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